Recovery from Domestic Abuse
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Am I Happy He Is Gone? Things I Was Not Anxious About Today
But I noticed something weird. There is a lot of time to fill when there is no anxiety. Or at least, no anxiety dependent on another person’s actions. Here’s a list of some of the things I did not feel anxious about today:
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Emergency Money for When You Leave
Speaking of things you can count on, count on your would-be controller to do everything in his/her power to leave you helpless and insecure. The more miserable you are, the more likely you are to return to the environment you left, and your abuser knows it. Even if you believe he doesn’t want you to…
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The Four Sides to Every Slippery Truth
There are always 3 versions of truth when there is a truth to be told – your version, their version, and the exact record of events imprinted upon the universe. There’s a fourth version of the truth. Find out what they are.
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Events of the Day (4 Days Free of Abusive Husband)
Four days after receiving an ex-parte and watching my abusive husband removed from the home, I’m on a rollercoaster of emotions, both sad and relieved.
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Grateful That I Reached Out to All of You
For anyone out there who is in an abusive situation, it is time for you to reach out too. It is time to begin remembering that people love you, really love you. And if you can’t think of any, then it is time to find a domestic violence group, book club, a gym, an online…
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Don’t Tell Me Not to Worry: You Don’t Know Him Like I Do
I doubt it. You don’t know him like I do, so please stop trying to make me pretend that I know him as YOU do. Please, don’t tell me not to worry.
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Ex Parte: He’s Hurt Me for the Last Time
Has it been only one night? Last night, Will was intimidating and verbally harassing me when my anxiety levels went through the roof. Almost directly after writing, “Smack. Smack. Smack.” in reference to the belt he was snapping, I got up from this computer, went to my room, put on my boots, grabbed a pillow…
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The Threat of Violence: When Is It Time to Leave?
Abuse victims get so accustomed to the threat of violence that we stay in situations that can easily become violent–even though we don’t think they will.
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Declutter with a Theme
Make Your Home More You I am getting rid of some possessions that reflect “the old me” and keeping ones that project “who I am, was at heart, and always will be.” If something I own does not support the idea that I am “strong and vibrant”, then it is finding a new home. Self-Care…
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A Self-Care Journaling Exercise: 5 and 2
What beliefs are giving you trouble? Which ones are worth carrying forward into the future? There’s an exercise called “5 and 2” and it asks you to choose five beliefs to keep and two beliefs to let go. What’s good for you to keep and what’s better left behind? Here are my thoughts on 5 and…
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