Staying in Abusive Relationships Category

Emotions After Leaving Your Abuser

Escaping Abuse Is More Than Leaving Escaping an abusive relationship involves more than having a safety plan and walking out the door. In addition to the logistical planning, you also must plan for some confusing emotions after leaving your abuser. The loaded emotions create a minefield that my therapist didn’t prepare me for. But I…
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A Guided Meditation for Abuse Victims

Get the Abuser’s Voice Out of Your Head My sister, Erin Chavez, created this guided meditation for abuse victims, although she meant it just for me at first. I had to tell you she made it for me first because my sister is so supportive of me and all-around awesome. And I want everyone to…
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Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know

Stop or Slow the Escalation of Abusive Anger Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence, so verbal self-defense can help you when your abuser flies off the handle. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often abusive anger escalates into physical violence. Learning the art of verbal…
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Blocking and Diverting

What Is Blocking and Diverting and Why Do Abusers Use It? Blocking and diverting is basically changing the topic of a conversation or refusing to participate in it to gain control. Changing a normal conversation into one that shocks and hurts you is a control tactic designed to disorient and confuse you. A confused person is easier…
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Choosing to Stay in an Abusive Relationship

Choosing to stay in an abusive relationship is a valid choice. Despite the horrors of an abusive relationship, sometimes abused people choose to stay with their abuser. Staying doesn’t mean you’ll be happy, but sometimes staying for now or forever seems like the only thing you can do. Here are some possibilities of what can happen if you choose to…
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PTSD from Domestic Abuse

PTSD Affects 10 Percent of Domestic Abuse Survivors Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from domestic abuse affects a great number of abused and previously abused women. Women, in general, develop PTSD from domestic abuse more often than men in part because … women are more likely to experience trauma within established relationships or their traumatic exposures are more chronic than…
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Verbal Abuse Books That Teach the Vocabulary of Abuse

Verbal abuse books helped me discover that my marriage problems were rooted in verbal and emotional abuse. I felt relief because up until I read the library of verbal abuse books available, I thought that I was losing my mind. My abusive husband had almost convinced me that every problem in our marriage was my…
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3 Things Domestic Abuse Survivors Know That Victims Don’t

Only Domestic Abuse Survivors Will Read This Only domestic abuse survivors will read this post. If you’re an abuse victim, you’re somewhere else online researching what you can do about fixing your relationship or marriage, not searching for information about abuse. You see, abuse victims don’t know they’re victims. Abuse victims don’t recognize abuse, so…
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Quick Self-Care Tips for People in Abusive Relationships

Quick self-care tips for people in abusive relationships must help you redirect your thinking away from the abuser and onto yourself. This is important because we’re conditioned to think only of the abuser’s behavior. Whether the abuser is being nice or horrible, our lives center on what he or she is doing, thinking or feeling.…
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Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse

Empowered Healing Recipe By Anonymous I see my recipe for empowered healing from emotional abuse as an ongoing process. I see myself as a cook making a long, slow meal cooked over multiple days. Creating this recipe is a labor of self-love. I’m constantly tasting the mix as I go along and adding a pinch of…
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