Emotions After Domestic Abuse

Healing Emotional Trauma in Recovery

The Manitoba Trauma Information & Education Centre1 states the stages of healing emotional trauma are: Did you notice the cycle in domestic abuse recovery? The cycle of abuse spun you down to the depths of despair, but the cycle of domestic abuse recovery will raise you up. Yet the healing process is a cycle, and no one can…
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Do You Want Your Abuser Back?

If So, You’re Perfectly Normal The stress of untangling YOU from THEM can make you want your abuser back. It sucks, but it’s true. After I left Will, my husband, my desire to return to him surprised me. I thought I was above wanting him back. I felt like such a loser! I didn’t expect to ever…
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Escaping Abuse Is (Always) the Best Thing to Do

Escaping abuse means turning your life upside down, but the trouble of escaping abuse is well worth it if you know what to expect when you go. Read my new post at HealthyPlace.com titled Escaping Abuse: 5 Things Your Therapist Won’t Tell You
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Abuse And The Quest For Perfection

“Perfection” bedevils many of us, myself included. Perhaps you suffer from it yourself. I could blame my experience with abuse for it because, as you well know, abusers expect perfection from us victims. Not our idea of perfection, but their idea of the perfect wife, husband, child or friend.
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After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself

You Didn’t Lose Yourself, You Hid After abuse, when we look into the mirror, we think we see someone we do not know anymore. We tend to think the abuse changed us at our core. We worry that we’ll never be “that girl” ever again. But I’ve decided to think of the effects of abuse…
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Becoming Myself After the Abuse: I’m Not That Person . . . Yet

The past month whirled around me, through me, like a red wine hurricane. I feel alive and strong, but spinning uncontrollably in my heart are questions and wishes that I’m not ready to answer or fulfill. I feel like I’m in danger of losing my vision because time isn’t pacing itself with my desires –…
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Events of the Day (4 Days Free of Abusive Husband)

Four days after receiving an ex-parte and watching my abusive husband removed from the home, I’m on a rollercoaster of emotions, both sad and relieved.
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