Abuse Hides in the Dark. Turn on Your Light.

Self-Care


  • Mentoring Program from Verbal Abuse Journals

    Mentoring Program from Verbal Abuse Journals

    Mentoring Program Renamed Domestic Abuse Survivor Help (DASH) I’m very proud of the former Verbal Abuse Journals Mentoring Program. We helped hundreds of people who lived in abusive relationships or had left them. I will be forever grateful to Janet Rhodes for supervising the program and then accepting full responsibility for it. Before handing it…

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  • 3 Things Domestic Abuse Survivors Know That Victims Don’t

    3 Things Domestic Abuse Survivors Know That Victims Don’t

    Only Domestic Abuse Survivors Will Read This Only domestic abuse survivors will read this post. If you’re an abuse victim, you’re somewhere else online researching what you can do about fixing your relationship or marriage, not searching for information about abuse. You see, abuse victims don’t know they’re victims. Abuse victims don’t recognize abuse, so…

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  • Quick Self-Care Tips for People in Abusive Relationships

    Quick Self-Care Tips for People in Abusive Relationships

    Quick self-care tips for people in abusive relationships must help you redirect your thinking away from the abuser and onto yourself. This is important because we’re conditioned to think only of the abuser’s behavior. Whether the abuser is being nice or horrible, our lives center on what he or she is doing, thinking or feeling.…

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  • Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Empowered Healing Recipe By Anonymous I see my recipe for empowered healing from emotional abuse as an ongoing process. I see myself as a cook making a long, slow meal cooked over multiple days. Creating this recipe is a labor of self-love. I’m constantly tasting the mix as I go along and adding a pinch of…

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  • Staying in an Abusive Relationship

    Staying in an Abusive Relationship

    Staying Is a Choice You Can Make Staying in an abusive relationship is a choice some of us make. But when you’re staying in an abusive relationship, you won’t find much support from your family or friends–if your abuser hasn’t isolated you from them–or even domestic violence helping agencies. People who would like to support…

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  • Motivational Music Playlist: Goodbye to You

    When I started my playlist, Goodbye to You, I was ONLY angry, and these songs expressed my rage when I couldn’t. Now I find they leave me feeling FIERCELY empowered and KNOWING that I will prevail!

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  • Face Forward Restores Faces Maimed by Domestic Violence

    Face Forward Restores Faces Maimed by Domestic Violence

    “Face Forward works with community leaders around the nation to identify victims of violence who are legitimately working toward recovery and who carry the physical evidence of past abuse,” namely, the kind of abuse you see in the mirror, every day, that reminds you of your abusive past.

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  • I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I called the Sheriff’s department and spoke with the person in charge of domestic violence cases. I wanted to find out as much as I could about the process that occurs after calling the police to a domestic disturbance. Knowing what could happen if you call the police can give you the courage to actually…

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  • After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself

    After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself

    You Didn’t Lose Yourself, You Hid After abuse, when we look into the mirror, we think we see someone we do not know anymore. We tend to think the abuse changed us at our core. We worry that we’ll never be “that girl” ever again. But I’ve decided to think of the effects of abuse…

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  • I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better match. There are different kinds of therapies available to you. I recommend one that deals with the here and now…

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