Domestic Abuse FAQ

Domestic Abuse FAQs

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Was I Abused When He Grabbed My Face?

Domestic abuse victims ask, ‘Was I abused?’ because they truly don’t know, even if the answer is obvious to outsiders. Find out how fear alters an abuse victim’s perspective, and makes ‘Was I abused?’ confusing to answer.
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My Abuser Has PTSD. What Do I Do?

I’ve never been to war. I’ve never been raped at knife-point or fought for my life from strangers. But I did live with an unpredictable, angry and abusive man for over 17 years. And that is way more than enough time to develop hyper-anxiety, difficulty concentrating, experiencing overwhelming guilt or shame, and any other PTSD…
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How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

Our family is and was dysfunctional as they grew up. The effects of Will’s and my behaviors affected them greatly but in very different ways. However, they are not children anymore and I want to give them more privacy than I did when they were “my babies” and minors growing up in abuse.
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Why Does Gender Bias Exist When Talking About Domestic Abuse?

Gender bias in articles about domestic violence and abuse is common. What has to happen to get rid of gender bias in domestic violence and abuse conversations? See this.
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How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

A husband asks how to stop emotionally abusing his wife: I am a verbal and emotional abuser and have a chance to save my marriage. How do I stop emotionally abusing my wife? I didn’t even know I was doing it until lately. HELP! I am suffering too! Josh, you’re lucky that you have the chance…
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Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

Abusers are cunning and smart, masters at planning, persuasion, and execution. Their intelligence minus the ability to feel makes them dangerous.
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Are Abusers Typically Men? Let’s Stop Assuming They Are

Men can abuse their male partners; women can abuse their female partners. Women who abuse men are just as horrid as the reversed situation. I want to make it clear that the information presented on Verbal Abuse Journals seeks to educate victims and prevent abuse of either gender and any sexual orientation.
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What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?

Living with domestic abuse feels like you’re carrying around a 500-pound weight–except you don’t realize you’re carrying the weight. You don’t remember how much grander life felt before you picked up the weight, because adding it to your burdens happened so gradually. Imperceptibly, Abuse built its home on your shoulders. Effects of Living With Domestic…
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Are Abusers Mentally Ill? If So, What Do I Do About It?

No, Probably Not. Are abusers mentally ill? Short answer: no. It is unlikely that abusers are mentally ill. Mental illness of any kind affects about 18% of the U.S. population in general and about 18% of abusive people too.1 Most abusers are perfectly sane, with no personality disorder 2 or mental illness of any kind. Most…
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