Has it been only one night? Last night, Will was intimidating and verbally harassing me when my anxiety levels went through the roof. Almost directly after writing, “Smack. Smack. Smack.” in reference to the belt he was snapping, I got up from this computer, went to my room, put on my boots, grabbed a pillow and a blanket, and left the house.
I returned when I thought he had passed out, but he surprised me at the door. Eventually, he forced himself into the bedroom where I hid and put his hands on me while yelling nasty things. I called the cops. There were no marks on me, so they could not remove him from the house. I decided that I would leave.
For the remainder of the night through early morning, I pressed charges and requested an ex parte order, which the judge granted temporarily, until January 28. I went to the social services on post and filled them in on what happened. They notified his unit and his command issued a 72-hour no-contact order.
Finally, in the evening, the sheriff delivered the court issued ex-parte, which required Will to pack his clothes, toiletries and then leave the house. The cop (who was rude and uncommunicative with me) arrested Will in front of our boys and put him into the car with handcuffs on his wrists.
Will must stay away from our home, our children, our pets, my car and me. He may have no contact with any of us, period. We go to court on January 28. For now, we are safe and I am holding up well. I alternate between relief and regret, but the regret has nothing to do with the actions I took after the violence in the bedroom.
I am sad and feel like I will simply fall down and die at times.
- The Threat of Violence: When Is It Time to Leave?
- After Leaving Abuse: Dealing with Fear for Your Safety
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