My Life After Abuse
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A Necessary Evil: Pain of Separating from Abuser
I saw Will today. He looks good. Softer. I caught him glance at me sidelong and I wondered what he was thinking. Will gave Marc a bag to put in the trunk of my car. It is going to stay there, unopened. Marc relayed that his dad didn’t have room for whatever is in the bag, and
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I Can’t Make Him Be Nice, So I Can’t Make Him Angry
I feel anxious tonight. I woke up anxious this morning. I could be anxious about this weekend in general. The boys are spending Saturday night with their father. I am anxious about things I cannot control and never could control – although I thought I had the power to control them. You see, once upon a time,
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Potty Talk with God
I had a little conversation with God when I was on the commode today. God didn’t mind and was glad to hear from me. I asked God to take my worries and promised to be on the lookout for signs to guide me. The guy side of God invited me to put my worries on
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Am I Happy He Is Gone? Things I Was Not Anxious About Today
But I noticed something weird. There is a lot of time to fill when there is no anxiety. Or at least, no anxiety dependent on another person’s actions. Here’s a list of some of the things I did not feel anxious about today:
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Emergency Money for When You Leave
Speaking of things you can count on, count on your would-be controller to do everything in his/her power to leave you helpless and insecure. The more miserable you are, the more likely you are to return to the environment you left, and your abuser knows it. Even if you believe he doesn’t want you to…
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The Four Sides to Every Slippery Truth
There are always 3 versions of truth when there is a truth to be told – your version, their version, and the exact record of events imprinted upon the universe. There’s a fourth version of the truth. Find out what they are.
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Events of the Day (4 Days Free of Abusive Husband)
Four days after receiving an ex-parte and watching my abusive husband removed from the home, I’m on a rollercoaster of emotions, both sad and relieved.
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Grateful That I Reached Out to All of You
For anyone out there who is in an abusive situation, it is time for you to reach out too. It is time to begin remembering that people love you, really love you. And if you can’t think of any, then it is time to find a domestic violence group, book club, a gym, an online…
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The Threat of Violence: When Is It Time to Leave?
Abuse victims get so accustomed to the threat of violence that we stay in situations that can easily become violent–even though we don’t think they will.
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The Universe Makes It Hard Sometimes
What if this is my smack on the back of the head from the universe? What if I’m being forced in a different direction? What if there’s a different and more reliable way to fund my emergency account? What if what I’m doing is valuable enough to warrant some other type of income plan? A…
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