Abuse Hides in the Dark. Turn on Your Light.

How to Stop Abuse


  • I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I called the Sheriff’s department and spoke with the person in charge of domestic violence cases. I wanted to find out as much as I could about the process that occurs after calling the police to a domestic disturbance. Knowing what could happen if you call the police can give you the courage to actually…

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  • I Tried Marriage Counseling

    I Tried Marriage Counseling

    Marriage counseling is designed for couples who have a failure in communication or emotional connection. Abuse is NOT a communication failure, nor is it lacking an emotional connection. Abuse twists up love into an unrecognizable mass that both people mistakenly still call love. Abuse is not love, and abuse does not allow a relationship to…

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  • I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better match. There are different kinds of therapies available to you. I recommend one that deals with the here and now…

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  • Received Counseling from the Army’s Morale Welfare and Recreation Program

    Received Counseling from the Army’s Morale Welfare and Recreation Program

    If you press charges and go to court and your military spouse is found guilty, you’ll receive counseling and other services and the soldier will most likely receive a Dishonorable Discharge. If the soldier is found guilty of domestic violence in court, victims of domestic violence qualify for Transitional Compensation (Financial). In my case, that…

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  • Police Report May Do You No Good

    Police Report May Do You No Good

    Domestic violence and abuse gets complicated FAST. It seems abusers know all the tricks and many states have started arresting both people no matter who reports the incident. No matter what, if you are a victim, you should call the police, but think twice if you physically attacked first.

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  • Pooh’s Lost Chapter

    “Well, Eeyore,” said Christopher Robin hopefully, “perhaps now we can help you to feel a bit better, now that we’re here together. Would you like to go visit the rest of our friends? They’ll be so happy to see you!” Eeyore moaned, “Oh, I don’t know…my tail is bruised and they will all want to…

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  • Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an abusive relationship begins by telling someone what you are going through. Don’t continue suffering in silence. Talk about it.

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  • Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups

    Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups

    Abusers, when you think about it, are truly ridiculous people. Everything they saw we are, they are. Abusers project their worst fears about themselves onto us and then hate us for representing their fear. Support groups help you see this and can give back your sense of humor.

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  • How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How do you get out of an abusive relationship? You just leave. When the thought to leave strikes you, act on it, go. You deal with the emotions and hardships after you’ve left, one by one, just as you deal with all life challenges. Working out a safety plan in advance, just in case, doesn’t…

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  • Reach Out for Help with Domestic Abuse

    Reach Out for Help with Domestic Abuse

    Many people reach out for help with domestic abuse, but sometimes they reach out for help to the wrong people, or they reach out to the right people but become discouraged. Don’t give up if the domestic abuse hotline you call or friend you tell about the abuse doesn’t meet your needs. Keep reaching for…

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