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How to Stop Abuse


  • Therapy With Abuser Is A Waste of My Time And His

    Therapy With Abuser Is A Waste of My Time And His

    The therapist and Will agreed that women do not keep to the subject. Although that may be true some of the time (I am not above embracing a negative stereotype if it helps, which it rarely does), I am not the only person in my house who suffers from that particular compulsion.

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  • Marriage Counseling Does Not Help Abusive Relationships

    Marriage Counseling Does Not Help Abusive Relationships

    I want him to take responsibility for our problems as he expects me to do & expects as much of himself as he expects of me. I want equality in our marriage. However, I tend to agree with Kera who commented, “His response to your marriage counseling hardly seemed like he’s going to become a…

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  • My Support System Is My Foundation

    It’s all right that they don’t call ME. The fact that I have benefited and will continue to benefit from their wisdom, education and support is phenomenally important to me. I went from being someone stuck in isolation to being someone who knows who to call and when. More importantly, I learned that my husband’s…

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  • DD Form 2893 (Army’s Simple Safety Plan)

    Safety planning topics include what to do if an incident is in progress, what to do if you’re planning to leave, what to do after you’ve left, etc.

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  • In Your Heart of Hearts, You Know You’re Leaving

    Understanding is not what I need, and it’s not what I need to give. “Understanding” has super-glued my heart and mind to a mad man, and “understanding” will doom my children to repeating my loop.

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  • Grateful

    Grateful

    You are the only one of my family members unlucky enough to see first-hand how my husband treats me because he does the same thing to you; you are the only other person he has ever revealed his “other side” to without shame or remorse. I hate that for you.

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  • Top 8 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Marriage

    Top 8 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Marriage

    Journaling one day, I conversed with Big Me, the part of me that connects directly to God and can see the big picture. Here’s what came of it. I wrote: I wonder how long I’ll be able to go on with abuse at the forefront of my mind. At some point, it will truly exhaust…

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