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During My Abusive Marriage

  • Trophy Wife – Foretells the Story of Abuse

    When I drew her, I thought she was the water giving life to the flowers. I now know that water symbolically represents emotions and she is drowning in emotions that have nowhere to go. That vase is solid. It’s not going to spill or break. There is no outlet for what she feels. There’s no…


  • Set Personal Boundaries

    Set Personal Boundaries

    I Didn’t Understand Personal Boundaries No one ever pointed out to me that we each have personal boundaries. I knew when I didn’t like someone standing too close to me, but the idea that individuals can and do set emotional boundaries confounded me. I do set boundaries with friends, strangers, family members…I mean, I don’t…


  • How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action could be. Please talk to someone face-to-face about what’s going on with you. Don’t bother explaining your pain to your…


  • Two Effects of Verbal Abuse Video

    Mental and Emotional Fatigue from Verbal Abuse (A couple of minutes of needless video clipped at the beginning.) And when I did check my email yesterday, I found an email from a friend of mine who is kind of in the same situation. I’ve never met her, you all know how that goes online, and…


  • About Kellie Jo Holly

    Kellie Jo Holly is recognized as an artist, writer, and advocate for survivors of domestic violence. She is known for her contributions to raising awareness about domestic abuse, particularly through her work in creating the “Verbal Abuse Journals” website. Kellie Jo Holly established the Verbal Abuse Journals website which served as a platform to share…


  • Verbal Abuse PSA

    Verbal Abuse PSA

    These verbal abuse PSAs (public service announcements) shows the damage verbal abuse can do to a person and what verbal abuse sounds like. Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not…


  • I Lived a Fairy Tale During Domestic Abuse

    I Lived a Fairy Tale During Domestic Abuse

    Once upon a time, I lived in a world of disapproval and fear. I listened to a man who demanded I make him happy, then grew angrier when I could not. I thought something was wrong with me, so I sought to change who I was to become more pleasing to that man. But as I changed…


  • Domestic Violence Hits Home: I Left Twice

    Domestic Violence Hits Home: I Left Twice

    Leaving my abusive marriage happened by surprise, but not unexpectedly. I knew I would leave, but I didn’t have it planned for when it happened.


  • The Four Sides to Every Slippery Truth

    The Four Sides to Every Slippery Truth

    There are always 3 versions of truth when there is a truth to be told – your version, their version, and the exact record of events imprinted upon the universe. There’s a fourth version of the truth. Find out what they are.


  • Grateful That I Reached Out to All of You

    For anyone out there who is in an abusive situation, it is time for you to reach out too. It is time to begin remembering that people love you, really love you. And if you can’t think of any, then it is time to find a domestic violence group, book club, a gym, an online…