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Two Effects of Verbal Abuse Video

Mental and Emotional Fatigue from Verbal Abuse

(A couple of minutes of needless video clipped at the beginning.)

And when I did check my email yesterday, I found an email from a friend of mine who is kind of in the same situation.

I’ve never met her, you all know how that goes online, and I won’t, of course, say her name. But there is something on the email that kind of woke me up.

She said, well, first she’s kind of in the same boat as me, her husband isn’t around right now. She says,

“I have no need to fret and worry about every little thing and not knowing when the next outburst will come, but now I have a new problem too. I literally don’t know what to do with myself.”

“Everything seems like such a big deal. Go to the store and then I’m so tired! And then I do one thing and I want and need to rest for the rest of the day.

“It’s emotional fatigue and I’ve dealt with it for years, but now I can’t even think what to do with myself or my new freedom, or partial freedom anyway. Is this strange?

“I sit in my chair with my laptop and cannot think of anything to do. I’m bored and tired all at the same time. What do I want, like, need? I don’t know. I truly do not know.

That’s me [too].

So, my question to everybody is this: “Is this emotional fatigue? Or is this natural? Is this something every normal wife goes through?

And I know you can go through a period of the blues but do you ever not have the energy just to think about what you might want from your life? From yourself? From your marriage, if you dare think about that?!

I think what’s gotten me to this point is … oh, I’ve got an audience…

(directed to father-in-law…”Hello!” and quick small talk)

That was my father-in-law. I don’t know if he’s coming in or not. So, I’ll be back!

*Note: I divorced Will in 2011. The side effects of verbal abuse recur less often now, but I combat them with the abundant energy I have (now that Will isn’t sucking it out of me). My book, My Abusive Marriage: …and what happened when i left it will show you how much life changed when I left my ex-husband.