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Recovery from Domestic Abuse


  • Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Brainwashing and Abuse in Relationships Brainwashing occurs in long-term abusive relationships but begins in the very beginning. I once pictured a brainwash-able person as a prisoner of war. Much later, I understood that brainwashing easily affects people just like me. I doubt my husband brainwashed me on purpose. He did not have the military’s training

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  • Anxiety From Domestic Abuse Is Tough To Deal With!

    Anxiety From Domestic Abuse Is Tough To Deal With!

    Anxiety is a big deal for abuse victims, past and present. Sometimes I still find my heart racing at sounds that remind me of my “old life” in my abusive marriage. Fortunately, now I recognize my anxiety instead of not feeling it. Anxiety was such a huge part of my life when I lived with

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  • What Does “Recovery From Abuse” Mean To You?

    What Does “Recovery From Abuse” Mean To You?

    Some people think “recovery from abuse” means you’re able to hold quality relationships with family, friends and a new partner. Others consider recovery to mean they’ve reclaimed themselves, feel strong, and have their life back. Is the process of recovering from child abuse different from recovering from domestic abuse? Do you think recovery has an

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  • Self-Care Activities for Domestic Abuse Survivors

    Self-Care Activities for Domestic Abuse Survivors

    They Help You Feel Better Fast Do your abuser’s words haunt you? When his voice continues ringing loudly in your mind, it’s difficult to stay free of your abusive relationship! The key is to replace that voice with your own…but sometimes, due to your severe abuse, your own voice is just as tough on you as your

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  • Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups

    Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups

    Abusers, when you think about it, are truly ridiculous people. Everything they saw we are, they are. Abusers project their worst fears about themselves onto us and then hate us for representing their fear. Support groups help you see this and can give back your sense of humor.

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  • How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How do you get out of an abusive relationship? You just leave. When the thought to leave strikes you, act on it, go. You deal with the emotions and hardships after you’ve left, one by one, just as you deal with all life challenges. Working out a safety plan in advance, just in case, doesn’t…

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  • Website Launch Press Release

    Website Launch Press Release

    A wife and mother of two struggles to break free from the clutches of verbal, emotional and mental abuse after discovering her 17 years of marriage problems were actually domestic abuse issues. Her website reveals the devastation of her experience and recent realization that she has been participating in her own abuse. She’s now deciding…

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  • Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    “I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to decide if I’m going to stay around you while you act that way…or not. Boundaries for abusive relationships help you…

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  • Mentoring for Abuse Survivors

    Mentoring for Abuse Survivors

    Why Choose Mentoring if You’re an Abuse Survivor? After experiencing relationship abuse, regaining your sense of self can be a slow process. You often reach one level of healing only to discover there is more work to do. Many people experience disappointment and frustration during this process. You may wonder, “When will I be whole

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  • What’s It Like to Live Life Without Abuse?

    Transcript Hi! This is Kellie Jo Holly. I write the Verbal Abuse In Relationships blog at healthyplace.com. I’ve been out of my abusive relationship for about two years. It hasn’t been a cakewalk, I won’t lie. The beginning was pretty difficult. But here I am, I’m sitting in my own peaceful kitchen surrounded by four

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