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What’s It Like to Live Life Without Abuse?


Hi! This is Kellie Jo Holly. I write the Verbal Abuse In Relationships blog at healthyplace.com.

I’ve been out of my abusive relationship for about two years. It hasn’t been a cakewalk, I won’t lie. The beginning was pretty difficult. But here I am, I’m sitting in my own peaceful kitchen surrounded by four cats who caused never-ending heartbreak back at the old place – with the old dude – that I was with.

I get to express my emotions without interference and without being told that I’m wrong for feeling the way I feel. Nobody tries to shut me up. Nobody tells me that my dreams are worthless (Life with An Abuser vs Life with Freedom and Choice).

Everybody in my life loves me. Everyone in my life encourages me.

There are no voices in my home that scare me. There are no sounds in this house that worry me.

I don’t jump. I don’t cry (for reasons I don’t understand anyway).

I am at peace.

I don’t have to explain what I do. I can go where I want to go. I am friends with who I want to be friends with and not friends with people I don’t want to be friends with!

I get to parent my children in the way that I see fit.

When I wake up in the morning, there’s no yelling. There is no storming around. There are no doors slamming.

My house is peaceful. Just listen. …

Now when the kids get home after school, that’ll be different.

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