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How Do I Get Out of an Abusive Relationship


  • Honor Your Fear and Act

    Honor Your Fear and Act

    If you are afraid, there is a reason.  Explore it before you’re in imminent danger.  Even if your abuser has never laid a hand on you, if your intuition tells you something is going to happen, trust yourself. I’ve found two books that said that the best indicator of future domestic violence is the victim’s

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  • Alexandria’s Story — Leaving an Abusive Relationship

    Alexandria’s Story — Leaving an Abusive Relationship

    Leaving wasn’t really planned. I had just had enough. Threatening me with my life was the final straw and it scared me to death, so I told my parents and I told him I wished him the best and I hoped he had a wonderful life. And then I thanked him for showing me what…

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  • Peacock Lady’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Peacock Lady’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? Amazon.com WidgetsMy ex husband had kicked me in the leg with steel-toed boots. I needed medical attention. My family doctor helped me to connect with a Family Life Centre where I live. The counselors there helped me to understand that what was happening to me was domestic violence. I

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  • KareMarie – Story of Leaving Abuse

    KareMarie – Story of Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? Amazon.com WidgetsBeing called a “C U Next Tuesday” more than I could handle, having my personal belongings smashed and broken, being called no good, having been told to go slice my wrists and die and so on and so on. I can’t even type everything he has

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  • Kate’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Kate’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? MANY things. We knew each other since 2008, but we were off & on dating for 2 years until June 15, 2010. I was over at my friends house & he had happened to stop by. I knew he was dating a new girl, & he really

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  • Sara 2’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Sara 2’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? I was going to college in a different state. Thankfully, that was the only way I would safely and emotionally be able to get free from the situation. How did you feel about your abuser and/or your relationship in the days before you left? I was very

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  • Casey’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Casey’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? My son was diagnosed with Autism, but my ex didn’t believe me. He told everyone that I was lying and just wanted sympathy from other people. He wouldn’t accept my son’s autism, and he treated him very unfairly. My ex would punish my son when he didn’t

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  • Jennifer’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Jennifer’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? The name calling, his constant spending money on drinking, and his being drunk. Amazon.com WidgetsHow did you feel about your abuser and/or your relationship in the days before you left? I was over it. I had enough. I didn’t want to live that way anymore. What three

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  • Angela Lee’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Never let on that you’re getting stronger or planning to leave. Plan then escape. There really isn’t any intermediate step. Don’t believe your friends will help you. You are alone. But don’t let that put fear in you, let that motivate you to help yourself, then help others.

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  • Sheri’s Story of Leaving Abuse

    Sheri’s Story of Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? My therapist asked me why I stayed. I said it was because my daughters needed their father (I didn’t know he was abusing them at the time). He told me they’d end up with someone just like him, I told him they wouldn’t, they’d know better. He

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