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How Do I Get Out of an Abusive Relationship


  • Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an abusive relationship begins by telling someone what you are going through. Don’t continue suffering in silence. Talk about it.

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  • How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How I Left An Abusive Relationship Interview

    How do you get out of an abusive relationship? You just leave. When the thought to leave strikes you, act on it, go. You deal with the emotions and hardships after you’ve left, one by one, just as you deal with all life challenges. Working out a safety plan in advance, just in case, doesn’t…

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  • Reach Out for Help with Domestic Abuse

    Reach Out for Help with Domestic Abuse

    Many people reach out for help with domestic abuse, but sometimes they reach out for help to the wrong people, or they reach out to the right people but become discouraged. Don’t give up if the domestic abuse hotline you call or friend you tell about the abuse doesn’t meet your needs. Keep reaching for…

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  • How to Set Boundaries to Protect Against Abuse

    How to Set Boundaries to Protect Against Abuse

    When you learn how to set boundaries, you’ll feel empowered and ready to try them out. Be aware your abuser may not like the new you. Be careful. Abusers do not like having limited access to your emotions and thoughts.

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  • First Steps For Abuse Victims

    First Steps For Abuse Victims

    The shock of discovering you are in an abusive relationship can turn to panic over what to do. The following guide will help you clear your thinking after weeks or years of abuse. These are the first steps for abuse victims. Over your time in an abusive relationship, you’ve likely developed some side effects of abuse…

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  • Inspiration to Leave Your Abusive Relationship: Liberty or Death?

    My Thanksgiving weekend would not be complete without remembering our great country and its roots in the ultimate desire for freedom. Of course, I am grateful that almost 240 years ago, brave men and women fought for America’s freedom from the abuse and oppression of the British crown; I am also grateful that I fought…

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  • Why Did It Take Me So Long to Leave My Abusive Marriage?

    Why Did It Take Me So Long to Leave My Abusive Marriage?

    HealthyPlace.com interviewed me about leaving an abusive marriage yesterday. It is now almost a year after I left my abuser, but before our divorce is final. I have some issues with the interview, and I’m not certain I delivered my message as clearly as I wanted. I want to use this post to clear up…

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  • DD Form 2893 (Army’s Simple Safety Plan)

    Safety planning topics include what to do if an incident is in progress, what to do if you’re planning to leave, what to do after you’ve left, etc.

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  • In Your Heart of Hearts, You Know You’re Leaving

    Understanding is not what I need, and it’s not what I need to give. “Understanding” has super-glued my heart and mind to a mad man, and “understanding” will doom my children to repeating my loop.

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  • Top 8 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Marriage

    Top 8 Signs It’s Time To Leave Your Marriage

    Journaling one day, I conversed with Big Me, the part of me that connects directly to God and can see the big picture. Here’s what came of it. I wrote: I wonder how long I’ll be able to go on with abuse at the forefront of my mind. At some point, it will truly exhaust…

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