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Verbal and Emotional Abuse Help and Support


  • I Told Everyone About the Abuse

    I Told Everyone About the Abuse

    This outreach benefits me every day. I no longer feel alone or voiceless. Because of reaching out on my blog, I found the courage to locate domestic violence organizations in my local area for face to face help. Groups and counselors who know about domestic abuse are invaluable to recovery (and simply getting through the…

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  • Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries

    Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries

    I laid bare the last protected areas of my soul in hope that he could understand me. I just knew if he understood me, the arguments would end.

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  • Public Sector Counseling at DSS

    Public Sector Counseling at DSS

    She has been wonderful! I’ve been to her three times, and each time she was able to point out a valuable issue for me to examine. Issues that are MINE, not his. She’s teaching me to think about myself, what I want, what I see for myself in the future. The last meeting, she asked…

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  • Set Personal Boundaries

    Set Personal Boundaries

    I Didn’t Understand Personal Boundaries No one ever pointed out to me that we each have personal boundaries. I knew when I didn’t like someone standing too close to me, but the idea that individuals can and do set emotional boundaries confounded me. I do set boundaries with friends, strangers, family members…I mean, I don’t…

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  • Forced Counseling for the Abuser

    Forced Counseling for the Abuser

    I’m not saying you and I have no faults, but when it comes to abuse, we victims have NO RESPONSIBILITY for the abuse or the abuser’s actions and words. In my opinion, if my husband cannot (or will not) stop the abuse, then me trying to be a “better wife” is pointless.

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  • Six Sessions of Individual Counseling

    Six Sessions of Individual Counseling

    I received six sessions of individual counseling through Military One Source. It was only six sessions because my insurance offered them with no referral. When I go back to private counseling, I’ll need a referral. What I Hoped to Accomplish: I wanted someone to validate my experience. I wanted to become more informed about how…

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  • How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action could be. Please talk to someone face-to-face about what’s going on with you. Don’t bother explaining your pain to your…

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  • Help a Domestic Abuse Victim Leave the Abusive Partner

    Help a Domestic Abuse Victim Leave the Abusive Partner

    Is It Even Possible? Is it possible to help a domestic abuse victim? How could you, a bystander to your loved one’s abusive relationship, help? Is there a way to help her without inviting the abuser into your life? As you probably already know, sometimes she knows and says that she’s suffocating under the weight of the abuse.…

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  • Safety Planning for Domestic Violence and Abuse Victims

    Safety Planning for Domestic Violence and Abuse Victims

    Safety planning is priority number 1 if you’re being abused. Safety planning should include knowledge-building, and this safety plan includes an education.

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  • Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    “I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to decide if I’m going to stay around you while you act that way…or not. Boundaries for abusive relationships help you…

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