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Verbal and Emotional Abuse Help and Support


  • Leaving Abuse: Ways to Feel Stronger So You Can Go

    Leaving Abuse: Ways to Feel Stronger So You Can Go

    I left my abusive husband 4 years and a month ago, but I clearly remember those first few months of freedom. It sure didn’t feel like freedom as the anxiety and depression after leaving tore through me like tornadoes, first in one direction and then another. My emotions seemed to control whether I could take…

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  • Face Forward Restores Faces Maimed by Domestic Violence

    Face Forward Restores Faces Maimed by Domestic Violence

    “Face Forward works with community leaders around the nation to identify victims of violence who are legitimately working toward recovery and who carry the physical evidence of past abuse,” namely, the kind of abuse you see in the mirror, every day, that reminds you of your abusive past.

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  • North Carolina Survivors of Domestic Abuse: The Healthy Marriage Act

    Survivor’s voices must be heard in Senator Allran’s Dialogue North Carolina legislators want to pass the Healthy Marriage Act to require two years of counseling for couples who wish to divorce before granting the divorce. The amount of counseling time increases if there are children involved. Senator Allran, the primary sponsor of the bill, says he’s unsure…

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  • What Do You Pray For?

    Long ago, in the trenches of my abusive marriage, I prayed for strength and courage. God delivered – She gave me experiences that required strength and courage so I could hone those skills! That wasn’t exactly what I meant.

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  • Life-Changing Workbook

    Life-Changing Workbook

    What Does Your Life Look Like These Days? Why would you need a life-changing workbook? Well, do you feel like you’re pointlessly mucking about in life? Are you barely doing what you must (and a bunch of other things that don’t seem to matter much)? This lifestyle leaves you little time to reach your goals, or…

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  • How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

    How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

    A husband asks how to stop emotionally abusing his wife: I am a verbal and emotional abuser and have a chance to save my marriage. How do I stop emotionally abusing my wife? I didn’t even know I was doing it until lately. HELP! I am suffering too! Josh, you’re lucky that you have the chance…

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  • Emotional Abuse Changes Your Brain FAST

    Emotional Abuse Changes Your Brain FAST

    Happy New Year! Let’s welcome it with fireworks of a different kind. The kind of fireworks that change your brain in a good way instead of by receiving emotional abuse. Consider those electric fireworks (impulses) in your brain, firing away on their habitual path. Continuing into the new year with your old habits won’t change…

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  • I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I Called My Local Sheriff’s Department (Non-Emergency)

    I called the Sheriff’s department and spoke with the person in charge of domestic violence cases. I wanted to find out as much as I could about the process that occurs after calling the police to a domestic disturbance. Knowing what could happen if you call the police can give you the courage to actually…

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  • After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself

    After Abuse, Don’t Look Far to Find Yourself

    You Didn’t Lose Yourself, You Hid After abuse, when we look into the mirror, we think we see someone we do not know anymore. We tend to think the abuse changed us at our core. We worry that we’ll never be “that girl” ever again. But I’ve decided to think of the effects of abuse…

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  • I Tried Marriage Counseling

    I Tried Marriage Counseling

    Marriage counseling is designed for couples who have a failure in communication or emotional connection. Abuse is NOT a communication failure, nor is it lacking an emotional connection. Abuse twists up love into an unrecognizable mass that both people mistakenly still call love. Abuse is not love, and abuse does not allow a relationship to…

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