What are the signs of abuse to watch out for when you meet a new guy or gal? We know you cannot tell who will abuse you by looking at them. Well, if she's wearing a bathrobe, dirty slippers and has a cigarette in one hand and whiskey in the other...you may assume she might abuse you. Or, if he … [see more...]
Emotional Intelligence is “street smarts,” as opposed to “book smarts” when speaking about emotional strength. Emotional intelligence accounts for a great deal of a person’s ability to navigate life effectively. We experience different levels of emotional intelligence based on our own life’s teachings and experiences. Learning to understand the five components of emotional intelligence will greatly […]
Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often escalates into physical violence. Learning the Art of Verbal Self Defense is learning how to create a system (in any environment) where you can diffuse hostile language as well as give the victim […]
Julie is a trained domestic violence victims advocate and facilitator of a Batterer’s Intervention Program in California. She joins verbalabusejournals.com to help victims and survivors to heal from domestic violence help survivors understand why their abuser abuses, and to help abusers stop their abusive behaviors. Non-violent, mature relationships include qualities of cohesiveness, acceptance and joy with […]
I am not saying that what I habitually do or say EXCUSES any abuse, nor am I saying that what I do or say CONTROLS Will’s actions or reactions. I’m saying that the things I do and say (out of habit) ENABLES the abusive cycle or abusive dynamic to continue.
I am a fan of narcissismcured.com because of Kim Cooper. She was able to turn her marriage around even while living with her narcissistic husband. I am uncertain whether Will is narcissistic, but I am certain he is abusive toward me (and loads of other people, but I get the brunt of it). Even now. […]
Demons worry that we will know their names (all the horror movies say so and, actually, my angel says so, too.) Once we name the demon, once we recognize it, it loses its power. For example, when I admitted to myself that the demon in my marriage was ABUSE (not Will, but ABUSE), the abuse […]