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Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is “street smarts,” as opposed to “book smarts” when speaking about emotional strength. Emotional intelligence accounts for a great deal of a person’s ability to navigate life effectively. We experience different levels of emotional intelligence based on our own life’s teachings and experiences. Learning to understand the five components of emotional intelligence will greatly […]

The Art of Verbal Self Defense

Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often escalates into physical violence. Learning the Art of Verbal Self Defense is learning how to create a system (in any environment) where you can diffuse hostile language as well as give the victim […]

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.

Non-Violent, Mature Relationships…from the heart!

Julie is a trained domestic violence victims advocate and facilitator of a Batterer’s Intervention Program in California. She joins to help victims and survivors to heal from domestic violence help survivors understand why their abuser abuses, and to help abusers stop their abusive behaviors. Non-violent, mature relationships include qualities of cohesiveness, acceptance and joy with […]

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DD Form 2893 (Safety Plan)

The Army’s Safety Planning form is the most comprehensive form I’ve found to help me plan for my and my boys’ safety.


I have no warning, I huddle in the dark as the tornado howls and screams, praying that the storm will silence itself. It seems unending. And when it leaves and the sun returns, I look at the faces of my children. The ones I huddled with in the blackness, pressing myself between them and the storm, protecting them, I think. But the turbulence and violence of the storm’s deafening words have left subtle marks on their faces and welts on their hearts.

This one, I'll address above board

Ramona says~ “Nowhere in what I wrote assigns blame to you or him,  and I am trying extremely carefull not to do so. I remind you that I care about you both.  Your escape plan put you in a somewhat comfortable situation as far a money is concerned.  But that will change if “Will” is […]