What are the signs of abuse to watch out for when you meet a new guy or gal? We know you cannot tell who will abuse you by looking at them. Well, if she's wearing a bathrobe, dirty slippers and has a cigarette in one hand and whiskey in the other...you may assume she might abuse you. Or, if he … [see more...]
Amanda commented on Things Abusers Say and Do: I see a lot of my current partner’s abusive behavior on this page. What keeps me from leaving, or from even fully acknowledging the problem, is that I can’t actually imagine someone being so consciously manipulative and cruel. It is difficult for me to believe that such […]
Lisa Hayes wrote: “Being in high alert survival mode for an extended period of time affects the way a person thinks. Your ability to reason and be rational breaks down. Logic fails.You spend all your waking hours trying to avoid the next outburst or episode. You become exhausted. You become numb. You become a shell.” […]
I believe that if we attacked domestic violence as our first national priority, there would be less violence on the streets and fewer tragic deaths. What we see and learn at home as children lives inside of us for the remainder of our lives. Domestic violence traumatizes and changes young brains, but children do not […]
RandomlyK (as she is known around here) posted a list of rules she must live by if she wants to keep the peace in her home. This life sucks. Read her blog at Randomly Kassiopeia. I also posted 10 Rules to Live By awhile back. What rules are you expected to follow?
I found a copy of Patricia Evan’s book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” at google reader.Â The shared pages include how to tell if you’re in an abusive relationship. Don’t be afraid – it’s better to know than to keep denying it to yourself. If you haven’t read this book, you should. There’s no better time […]
So now, my quest to stop the abuse in my marriage is challenged on two levels. First, I will have to learn to deal with the HALT feelings on a consistent basis. Then, I will have to activate the correct thought process in order to deal with the abuse (…if it comes, which I suspect it will).