The Mentoring Service cannot currently accept mentor applications or requests for a mentor. The service will be back in operation in the future. I chose to close the mentoring service instead of allowing the many requests to go unanswered. Additionally, some contact forms do not work. However, you … [see more...]
Red on Black Productions writes “This short film was inspired by [the tweet hashtags] #whyIstayed and #whyIleft…” I believe the day it started for me occurred two weeks into the relationship with my ex-husband, Will. I suspected that I was pregnant and went to Will’s barracks to let him know. He held a Jack & […]
Recently, conversing with my fiance triggered an abusive and detrimental reaction. I threw up an emotional barrier, yelled violently, cried and became unwilling to continue talking at all. To say my behavior threw him off guard is an understatement. Jarimie looked at me in confusion and did not yell. Suddenly I realized I was the one behaving […]
I’m doing it again. I’m losing my mind in match-3 computer games that let me ignore unpleasant thoughts. I tried believing that playing those games relaxes my brain and that matching colored balls on Bubble Witch qualifies as a healthy, mindful activity. In reality, the games help me keep nothing on my mind. In thinking’s absence, I can avoid asking questions […]
Red Light Behaviors (<– previous post) This stinks. I’m sitting here bemoaning the fact that I have to think about the danger signs relating to my husband’s behavior (or anyone ‘s behavior, I guess). It’s scary because I’ve been through it before – I’m not imagining, I’m “re-magining” or living through it again in my mind. […]
It’s a good idea to know what the enemy is. Verbal abuse, by nature, attempts to make us forget what we’re fighting. Here are some web pages that I like when I need to remember and acknowledge the truth: Narcissistic Abuse/Verbal Abuse How can I identify and respond to verbal abuse? Signs of Verbal Abuse […]
It’s always harder for me to be quiet. I tend to want to let him know exactly how I feel in an effort to “punish” him for not doing what I wanted him to do. But where did I get the idea that sharing my thoughts and feelings was punishment for someone else?