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Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is “street smarts,” as opposed to “book smarts,” when speaking about emotional strength. It’s what accounts for a great deal of a persons ability to navigate life effectively. We experience different levels of emotional intelligence based on our own life’s teachings and experiences. Learning to understand the five categories of emotional intelligence will […]

The Art of Verbal Self Defense

Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often escalates into physical violence. Learning the Art of Verbal Self Defense is learning how to create a system (in any environment) where you can diffuse hostile language as well as give the victim […]

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.

Non-Violent, Mature Relationships…from the heart!

Julie is a trained domestic violence victims advocate and facilitator of a Batterer’s Intervention Program in California. She joins to help victims and survivors to heal from domestic violence help survivors understand why their abuser abuses, and to help abusers stop their abusive behaviors. Non-violent, mature relationships include qualities of cohesiveness, acceptance and joy with […]

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Carolyn's Abuse Testimonial

Carolyn wrote an abuse testimonial a couple of months ago. I hadn’t posted it yet because I didn’t really want to think about my own abuse. That wasn’t fair, and I’m sorry Carolyn, that you waited so long. As you read through it, think about the years Carolyn has lived with this verbal, emotional and mental […]


In the Army, we did assessments after training events called After Action Reviews (AARs) to help us appreciate the great, identify the bad, and determine a better course of action for the future. In the past, I would probably have spent yesterday and today buying stuff to make up for my tantrum. Possibly to the […]

The Good Stuff

“Releasing and healing parental and spousal emotional abuse and sexual abuse will do more for improving your diet and life than just about anything else.” ~from How To Naturally Beat Metabolic Syndrome I believe that statement is true (although I’m not spending money on the diet the site promotes!). As I unwrap layers and years of […]