Recent Posts

Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is “street smarts,” as opposed to “book smarts,” when speaking about emotional strength. It’s what accounts for a great deal of a persons ability to navigate life effectively. We experience different levels of emotional intelligence based on our own life’s teachings and experiences. Learning to understand the five categories of emotional intelligence will […]

The Art of Verbal Self-Defense

Verbal Abuse is the undercurrent of most domestic violence. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of it’s destructive nature but because it so often escalates into physical violence. Learning the Art of Verbal Self Defense is learning how to create a system (in any environment) whereas hostile language can be diffused […]

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.

Non-Violent, Mature Relationships…from the heart!

Julie is a trained domestic violence victims advocate and facilitator of a Batterer’s Intervention Program in California. She joins to help victims and survivors to heal from domestic violence help survivors understand why their abuser abuses, and to help abusers stop their abusive behaviors. Non-violent, mature relationships include qualities of cohesiveness, acceptance and joy with […]

More Posts

Waiting for a Hero

I’m feeling so shitty; I want to stop feeling. I want to stop thinking. I want to stop.

a woman beating a man in public

Women Hit More Than Men Do

Carrie Keating, the expert in the video above, teaches psychology at Colgate University. Her main interest is the study of charisma, but she spoke in the ABC video above about aggression. As you know, aggression in an intimate relationship is usually called domestic violence. In the video, Ms. Keating states, “Men create more damage, but […]


The first conversation about “us” we had involved him telling me that he had three priorities. One, getting Marc straightened out. Two, getting our marriage straightened out. Three, his career. He is a list maker. I expressed concern that by keeping items one and two separate in his mind, he may feel frustration. I also said that by […]