Emotional drama is not love during an abuser's initial attachment period to you. Emotional drama allows the abuser to use smoke and mirrors to disguise his or her true intent of placing you under a false-love spell. The abuser seems to say, "Look at me! Look only at me! I am so in love with you … [see more...]
What I didn’t understand at the time was that if Will wanted to lash out at me, it did not matter what I said or did or how I said or did it. The purpose of yelling at me, accusing me of lying, telling me I was a horrid mother, insisting I was cheating and all the rest was to keep me off balance. To keep me confused. To keep me explaining myself to him so he did not have to explain himself to me.
I’ve never been to war. I’ve never been raped at knife-point or fought for my life from strangers. But I did live with an unpredictable, angry and abusive man for over 17 years. And that is way more than enough time to develop hyper-anxiety, difficulty concentrating, experiencing overwhelming guilt or shame, and any other PTSD symptom.
Red Door Productions introduces #TheDayItStarted as a prompt for abuse victims to tell about their earliest memory of domestic abuse.
Living with abuse is like living under a 300 pound weight. Except that you don’t know you’re carrying Abuse on your shoulders. You don’t realize how much grander life would be if you dropped the weight.
Here are some blogs about abuse written by women experiencing abuse in their relationships right now: He’s Got Issues – Yes he does. This blogger documents her struggles in an abusive relationship. He says, “Oh I kinda wish i was single, cause it would be cheaper and I would have more time alone.. but I […]
Happy New Year! Let’s welcome 2013 with fireworks of a different kind. Consider those electric fireworks (impulses) in your brain, firing away on their habitual path. Continuing into the new year with your old habits won’t change a darn thing. To make real change, you’ve got to forge a new brain path for those electric […]