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Understanding Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is “street smarts,” as opposed to “book smarts” when speaking about emotional strength. Emotional intelligence accounts for a great deal of a person’s ability to navigate life effectively. We experience different levels of emotional intelligence based on our own life’s teachings and experiences. Learning to understand the five components of emotional intelligence will greatly […]

The Art of Verbal Self Defense

Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often escalates into physical violence. Learning the Art of Verbal Self Defense is learning how to create a system (in any environment) where you can diffuse hostile language as well as give the victim […]

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.

Non-Violent, Mature Relationships From the Heart!

Julie is a trained domestic violence victims advocate and facilitator of a Batterer’s Intervention Program in California. She joins to help victims and survivors to heal from domestic violence help survivors understand why their abuser abuses, and to help abusers stop their abusive behaviors. Non-violent, mature relationships include qualities of cohesiveness, acceptance and joy with […]

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Work to Undo

No, I haven’t made a new home in a nutshell, but I did find an excellent article written by Val Farmer entitled Emotional, verbal abuse follow common patterns. I’ll be back with some new thoughts over the next couple of days. Right now I’m dealing with some “stuff” (and we all know what THAT is, […]

Kim Cooper on Narcissism

Narcissism. I’m not certain my husband is a narcissist, but I am tired of trying to diagnose him. I do know he displays several narcissistic qualities. I like Kim Cooper’s latest post because it gives tips on how to deal with the narcissistic traits I see. Check it out.

Portrait of My Abuser

Unlike many of you, I am not facing abuser everyday at this point. There is still some time before he returns from deployment. However, I am mentally rehearsing possible scenarios, over and over again. I am educating myself on abuse of all sorts because knowing who I’m up against in this battle for my very soul […]