You can't protect your children from witnessing domestic abuse if you're in an abusive relationship. And the effect of witnessing domestic abuse is harmful in the short and long-term picture. You may think that because the kids are asleep or even at a friend's house that they can't witness abuse. … ...read this
Stephen Covey says to “live out of your imagination, not your history.” Depression, suicidal thoughts, hate, despair and hopelessness result when I live out of the mindset of my past. It’s as if he is abusing me all over again.
You can be financially abused even if you earn your own money or have access to family funds. Financial abuse is more than you may think.
Domestic violence is a bigger problem than we realized because it affects not only the abused person but that person’s entire system (family, friends, colleagues, children, economy, etc.). We cannot afford to consider domestic violence as a family affair like in the past. The web of domestic violence spreads far and wide, infecting every individual in the United States. Domestic violence affects you whether you realize it or not.
One of the hardest parts of living in this abusive situation is knowing that “Mr. Nice Guy” will be replaced by “the other one” – the guy that is angry, loud, mean, insulting, and abusive.
I’ve learned that by switching back and forth at will, my abuser successfully keeps me in a state of alert. I never know when the switch will come.
Not that my children are less than me, but they are smaller and easier to express anger toward than my husband. It wasn’t fair. They always deserved better.
So far in this after actions review of my temper tantrum, I’ve uncovered some useful information to help me in the future. (If you’re wondering, read Peace and then Distraction) I now realize that, more than anything else, should-ing on myself led straight into my temper tantrum. For some reason, I think I wanted Eddie, my 13 year […]