What Is Verbal and Emotional Abuse?
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How to Recognize Verbal Abuse: A Free PDF Download
A guide that helps you see what’s happening Verbal abuse is hard to see from the inside. The words may sound like the way your partner has always talked, or you have heard them so…
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Top 12 Signs of Abuse in Your Future
What are the signs of abuse to watch out for when you meet a new guy or gal? We know you cannot tell who will abuse you by looking at them. Most likely, if the…
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Emotional Drama Is Not Love
Emotional drama is not love. It is manufactured by the abuser during the initial attachment period using smoke and mirrors to disguise their true intentions. They want to place you under a love spell so…
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Judging and Criticizing
Making You Look Like a Loser Judging and criticizing allow your abuser to express how little they accept you as you are. The abuser implies that you should be smarter, saner, less picky, pickier, or…
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Discounting
Discounting Your Reality Abusive people enjoy discounting your thoughts, feelings, and reality so they do not have to take responsibility for their abusive behavior. If your abuser can force you to doubt your perception of…
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Ordering and Demanding
Abusers “Forget” That You Are Your Own Person If your partner orders you around and demands you meet their requests, then you hear verbal abuse. Patricia Evans, the author of the best verbal abuse books,…
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Withholding or Depriving
What Might an Abuser Withhold from a Victim? Withholding affection is one type of deprivation, and that occurs when your mate purposefully withholds physical contact (including sex). Divorces of the past were granted for “alienation of…
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Denial
Denial Is Lying Meant to Control Denial is the same as lying, and some verbal abusers are mistaken for “pathological liars” because they use denial as a form of control so often. Lying to control others is different…
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Countering
Countering Is Devious and Crazymaking Countering occurs when your abuser expresses the near opposite of what you say no matter if In the context of verbal abuse, countering is not the same as disagreeing. It is normal for…
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Forgetting
What Is Forgetting as It Relates to Verbal Abuse? “Forgetting involves both denial and covert manipulation. […] Consistently forgetting interactions which have a great impact on another person is verbally abusive denial.” The key to…