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Your Recovery From Domestic Abuse
Recovering on Purpose Recovery from domestic abuse and violence is always possible. Recovery from domestic abuse becomes probable when you: No one knows how long you’ll need to completely recover from domestic abuse. But as you’ll find out, even a bit of recovery from abuse makes your heart sing. Nurturing your recovery, or recovering on purpose, adds structure to your recovery. Thoughts…
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Accusing and Blaming
What’s the Purpose of Accusing and Blaming? Accusing and blaming help abusers take the focus off of what they’re doing and put it onto their victims. If your abuser can convincingly accuse you of “starting this whole thing” or blame you for their actions, then you’re likely to consider their viewpoint, maybe agree then try to prove…
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Abusive Anger
What Is Abusive Anger? Why Do Abusers Use It? Abusive anger benefits abusive people by sending shockwaves of doubt and fear through their target’s mind and body. The target will freeze, flee, or fight back. The best thing to do is flee – leave the area. Besides preventing further emotional turmoil, abusive anger can turn violent even…
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Verbal Abuse Disguised as a Joke
What Is Abuse Disguised as Jokes? Abuse disguised as a joke happens when abusers tease or make fun of you, usually in front of others. However, you know they are threats and put-downs in disguise. They’re sick personal “jokes” between the two of you. Only you know the real story behind his “humor.” Friends probably wonder why…
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Threatening Behavior And Words
What Are Threatening Words and Behavior? As you can guess, threatening words and behavior imply or involve emotional pain, physical pain, or both. If your partner threatens to leave if you do or don’t do something, that is a threat. Threats are verbal and emotional abuse. Some things you could hear are, “If you go out…
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The Brainwashing Technique: How Coercive Control Takes Hold
Learn How It’s Done So You Can Undo It “Brainwashing” is the plain-language term I’m using for a process more often discussed as coercive control and psychological aggression these days. The newer terminology doesn’t have the same “Dammit you’re going to believe and do as I say or else!” feeling abusers go for. Coercive control…
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Choosing to Stay in an Abusive Relationship
Choosing to stay in an abusive relationship is a valid choice. Despite the horrors of an abusive relationship, sometimes abused people choose to stay with their abuser. Staying doesn’t mean you’ll be happy, but sometimes staying for now or forever seems like the only thing you can do. Here are some possibilities of what can happen if you choose to…
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Safety Planning for Domestic Abuse and Violence
Safety planning is priority number 1 if you’re being abused. Safety planning should include knowledge-building, and this safety plan includes an education.
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Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships
Do you have these verbal abuse symptoms? If you are depressed, anxious, lonely or feel you do not know who you are anymore, or many other debilitating conditions both mental and physical, you might be a victim of verbal abuse and domestic abuse or violence.