Staying in Abusive Relationships
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What I Want
I write a lot about what I DON’T want. It’s probably more valuable to think about what I DO want. So, here goes: I want a loving, healthy family. I want to live in a home that I love. I want to create a happy balance between my time alone AND time to be with my
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Why I’m Staying In My Abusive Marriage
I will be doing a lot of work in the realm of codependency, as well as finding solutions to dealing with my husband’s abusive techniques. It takes two participants to play this sick game we’ve got going on in my home. What will happen when I simply stop playing?
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I’m Staying
I made a monumental decision: I’m staying in my marriage.
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Waiting for a Hero
I’m feeling so shitty; I want to stop feeling. I want to stop thinking. I want to stop.
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My Buttons Get Pushed – But I Control My Reactions
I’m reading a book1 in which the authors identify three common ways people think when confronted with button-pushing people and an alternative, healthier way to think. In a prior post, I wrote about some stinking thinking before I knew what it was: “Or maybe it’s me blaming myself for not seeing this coming. Maybe it’s me thinking that no matter what I
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Leaving Abuse and Codependency: Smart Piggy
The little kid in me wants to shout, “It’s not fair!” and run away fast and hard. I want to put all the blame on HIM. I want HIM to be the big bad wolf and leave me to be the little pig who had the foresight to build a brick house, light the fire,…
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I'm not the only one
“How do I stop my partner’s emotional bullying from affecting me?” Read the answers at experienceproject.com – I didn’t find one that suited me. But this is what I would tell anyone who asked me that question: “YOU CAN NOT FIX HIM !! NO MATTER HOW MUCH CRAP YOU TAKE FROM HIM WILL NOT MAKE
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My Abusive Husband Wants His Wife, Not Me
Recently, my husband acknowledged that he’s seen this blog. He says he can read it if he pretends his wife doesn’t write it. He says that he wants to educate himself, that my blog and site “would be very educational” to people who also “think” they have an abuse problem. He has never addressed a specific post or even acknowledged
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Fake Name True Story
I was off in thought today, considering what my husband, who says he reads this blog, thinks of it. At first he was really pissed off about it and asked me not to use his name or pictures because of military confidentiality concerns. So I blurred his face and changed his name to Will. I thought “Will” was
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Hunger Issues
Maybe seeing that I DO have control over things other than food is a feeling that I can trust. IF, in fact, I am regaining some control over myself and my life, then maybe I could afford to change a few tiny things to goose me into better nutrition.
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