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Staying in Abusive Relationships


  • ‘My Abusive Marriage . . . and what i’m doing in it’ by Kellie Jo Holly

    ‘My Abusive Marriage . . . and what i’m doing in it’ by Kellie Jo Holly

    Are you being abused? Gain clarity, realize you are not crazy, and find out the common threads of abuse through a gripping tell-all account of an 18-year, abusive marriage. You’ve poured through her blog. You might have even received help from one of her mentors; but hear exactly how Kellie Jo Holly has arrived at…

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  • Staying in an Abusive Relationship

    Staying in an Abusive Relationship

    Staying Is a Choice You Can Make Staying in an abusive relationship is a choice some of us make. But when you’re staying in an abusive relationship, you won’t find much support from your family or friends–if your abuser hasn’t isolated you from them–or even domestic violence helping agencies. People who would like to support…

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  • Can You Be Financially Abused If You Have Money?

    Can You Be Financially Abused If You Have Money?

    You can be financially abused even if you earn your own money or have access to family funds. Financial abuse is more than you may think.

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  • My Abusive Marriage Recap

    My Abusive Marriage Recap

    While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So I thought I’d add them to a brand new page and see if brevity works as well as a deep…

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  • The Page You’re Looking For …

    The Page You’re Looking For …

    Is Now Part of A Book by Kellie Jo Holly You can find free book excerpts by clicking “Book Excerpts”, downloading a preview, or visiting amazon.com to buy now. Are you being abused? Gain clarity, realize you are not crazy, and find out the common threads of abuse through a gripping tell-all account of an…

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  • #TheDayItStarted

    Red Door Productions introduces #TheDayItStarted as a prompt for abuse victims to tell about their earliest memory of domestic abuse.

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  • Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse

    Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse

    He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.

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  • Living in My Abusive Marriage

    Living in My Abusive Marriage

    Living with abuse is horrible. I wish I could go back to the days when I thought I was a bad person or mentally ill. At least then I only had to fix myself.

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  • I Tried Marriage Counseling

    I Tried Marriage Counseling

    Marriage counseling is designed for couples who have a failure in communication or emotional connection. Abuse is NOT a communication failure, nor is it lacking an emotional connection. Abuse twists up love into an unrecognizable mass that both people mistakenly still call love. Abuse is not love, and abuse does not allow a relationship to…

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  • I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    I’m in Long-Term Counseling

    Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better match. There are different kinds of therapies available to you. I recommend one that deals with the here and now…

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