Verbal and Emotional Abuse Help and Support

Mentoring for Abuse Survivors

Why Choose Mentoring if You’re an Abuse Survivor? After experiencing relationship abuse, regaining your sense of self can be a slow process. You often reach one level of healing only to discover there is more work to do. Many people experience disappointment and frustration during this process. You may wonder, “When will I be whole
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How to Set Boundaries to Protect Against Abuse

When you learn how to set boundaries, you’ll feel empowered and ready to try them out. Be aware your abuser may not like the new you. Be careful. Abusers do not like having limited access to your emotions and thoughts.
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First Steps For Abuse Victims

The shock of discovering you are in an abusive relationship can turn to panic over what to do. The following guide will help you clear your thinking after weeks or years of abuse. These are the first steps for abuse victims. Over your time in an abusive relationship, you’ve likely developed some side effects of abuse
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Overcome Anxiety and Fear: Exorcise The Demon Meditation

For example, when I admitted to myself that the demon in my marriage was ABUSE, the abuse held less power over me. The demon flared up in a fiery attempt to terrify me, yet, after its temper tantrum, I stood strong and continued to call it by name. Will thinks I demonized him, but I…
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Pride Revisited

Last year, I wrote a story called Pride and Greed about how those two sins work together to create an abusive relationship. But now that I think about it, the story is not quite right. I mean, the story helped me to understand how Will and I “happened”, but it’s off somehow. The story is…
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Detaching from My Abuser: Hold and Release

There must be something in the air. My mood is so serious, like a rain-filled cloud threatening to rain on my parade. Although I feel in my gut that I’m moving in the right direction, I’m getting stronger, finding out who I am and what I like (and don’t), … there’s something heavily sad about
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Seek and Ye Shall Find

Will and I were unhappily married and I once mistakenly blamed him for every one of our missteps and evils. Although I thought I was trying to make him happy, I was really trying to make him happy so he could make me happy. When I failed, I wanted to run far and fast. I
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Codependency Makes Me Want to Fix Things for Them

My therapist presented an alternative solution, one that actually makes sense and would have cut out all the drama. She said that Marc’s feelings of guilt were HIS to deal with. It sounded harsh to me at first…didn’t I CAUSE Marc’s bad feelings? Wasn’t I responsible for this whole mess anyway? Shouldn’t I do everything…
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The Army and Domestic Violence and Abuse

For the love of Pete, please, Army spouses, understand that you CAN report domestic abuse in your home WITHOUT your soldier losing their career! Army policy may require counseling, classes, and interviews, but your report WILL NOT ruin their career. Hell, the Army may mark your report as “unsubstantiated” like they did my first one,
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Therapy With Abuser Is A Waste of My Time And His

The therapist and Will agreed that women do not keep to the subject. Although that may be true some of the time (I am not above embracing a negative stereotype if it helps, which it rarely does), I am not the only person in my house who suffers from that particular compulsion.
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