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Domestic Violence Problems


  • What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?

    What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?

    Living with domestic abuse feels like you’re carrying around a 500-pound weight–except you don’t realize you’re carrying the weight. You don’t remember how much grander life felt before you picked up the weight, because adding it to your burdens happened so gradually. Imperceptibly, Abuse built its home on your shoulders. Effects of Living With Domestic

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  • Two Effects of Verbal Abuse Video

    Mental and Emotional Fatigue from Verbal Abuse (A couple of minutes of needless video clipped at the beginning.) And when I did check my email yesterday, I found an email from a friend of mine who is kind of in the same situation. I’ve never met her, you all know how that goes online, and

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  • Ali’s Story of Abuse

    Ali’s Story of Abuse

    How Ali Found Out She Was Being Abused I have recently separated from my husband after being married 8 years. I have 2 children aged 3 and 1. My marriage has been a roller coaster ride from the beginning. But over the years the lows have got longer and more terrifying. I had thought our

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  • About Kellie Jo Holly

    Kellie Jo Holly is recognized as an artist, writer, and advocate for survivors of domestic violence. She is known for her contributions to raising awareness about domestic abuse, particularly through her work in creating the “Verbal Abuse Journals” website. Kellie Jo Holly established the Verbal Abuse Journals website which served as a platform to share

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  • Overcome Anxiety and Fear: Exorcise The Demon Meditation

    Overcome Anxiety and Fear: Exorcise The Demon Meditation

    For example, when I admitted to myself that the demon in my marriage was ABUSE, the abuse held less power over me. The demon flared up in a fiery attempt to terrify me, yet, after its temper tantrum, I stood strong and continued to call it by name. Will thinks I demonized him, but I…

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  • You Can’t Make Your Abuser Abuse You

    You Can’t Make Your Abuser Abuse You

    You can’t make your abuser abuse you. The responsibility for abusing falls directly on the shoulders of the perpetrator, not the victim. Yet so many victims (me too!) want to somehow make the abuse “our fault”. I think that I wanted to accept responsibility for the abuse because if I caused it, then I could

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  • Dream World of Abuse in Relationships

    Dream World of Abuse in Relationships

    I wrote this some time ago, before leaving my abuser: Poe wrote, “All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.” Perhaps his statement sheds light on why abuse is so difficult to describe, so difficult to recognize, end, and admit. Living in abuse, I know that nothing is real. Every

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  • Anniversary Anxiety Related to Domestic Violence

    Anniversary Anxiety Related to Domestic Violence

    February 1st last year was on Monday. Will and I had gone to court the Thursday before, and I had told the judge I agreed that he could see the boys. That first weekend, he wouldn’t take them because he hadn’t received his paperwork and was afraid that I would call the law on him

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  • Why Did It Take Me So Long to Leave My Abusive Marriage?

    Why Did It Take Me So Long to Leave My Abusive Marriage?

    HealthyPlace.com interviewed me about leaving an abusive marriage yesterday. It is now almost a year after I left my abuser, but before our divorce is final. I have some issues with the interview, and I’m not certain I delivered my message as clearly as I wanted. I want to use this post to clear up…

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  • Bouncy Ball

    Abusive relationships begin with promise as do all new relationships. But abusive relationships turn one partner into a prisoner.

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