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  • Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse

    Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse

    He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.

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  • North Carolina Survivors of Domestic Abuse: The Healthy Marriage Act

    Survivor’s voices must be heard in Senator Allran’s Dialogue North Carolina legislators want to pass the Healthy Marriage Act to require two years of counseling for couples who wish to divorce before granting the divorce. The amount of counseling time increases if there are children involved. Senator Allran, the primary sponsor of the bill, says he’s unsure

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  • I Feel Ashamed of My PTSD Diagnosis

    I Feel Ashamed of My PTSD Diagnosis

    A couple of weeks ago, I received a second mental health diagnosis of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I’ve long wondered if my symptoms added up to PTSD but knowing that a psychiatrist believes I have PTSD affected me. Negatively. Being diagnosed with PTSD affected me negatively. There. I said it. It makes me feel powerless.

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  • Abuse Quotes from Survivors

    Abuse Quotes from Survivors

    Most of the quotes I’ve collected come from women. However, I believe that the reason I have more abuse quotes from women is because women reach out for help more often. Women seem more likely to share their stories. Perhaps we’re simply wired that way, or maybe society doesn’t want to believe a man could…

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  • How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

    How Do I Stop Emotionally Abusing My Wife?

    A husband asks how to stop emotionally abusing his wife: I am a verbal and emotional abuser and have a chance to save my marriage. How do I stop emotionally abusing my wife? I didn’t even know I was doing it until lately. HELP! I am suffering too! Josh, you’re lucky that you have the chance

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  • Emotional Abuse Changes Your Brain FAST

    Emotional Abuse Changes Your Brain FAST

    Happy New Year! Let’s welcome it with fireworks of a different kind. The kind of fireworks that change your brain in a good way instead of by receiving emotional abuse. Consider those electric fireworks (impulses) in your brain, firing away on their habitual path. Continuing into the new year with your old habits won’t change

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  • Verbal Abuse Is The Driving Force in Abusive Relationships

    Verbal Abuse Is The Driving Force in Abusive Relationships

    Domestic abuse involves more than sexual and physical violence. It includes mental and emotional abuse at least and, whether obscure or obvious, verbal abuse in relationships is the core method of control for abusers. Verbal abuse is more than name calling, more than yelling. Verbal abuse is insidious and tricky, but very real. What is Verbal Abuse? Fortunately,

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  • Honor Your Fear and Act

    Honor Your Fear and Act

    If you are afraid, there is a reason.  Explore it before you’re in imminent danger.  Even if your abuser has never laid a hand on you, if your intuition tells you something is going to happen, trust yourself. I’ve found two books that said that the best indicator of future domestic violence is the victim’s

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  • Alexandria’s Story — Leaving an Abusive Relationship

    Alexandria’s Story — Leaving an Abusive Relationship

    Leaving wasn’t really planned. I had just had enough. Threatening me with my life was the final straw and it scared me to death, so I told my parents and I told him I wished him the best and I hoped he had a wonderful life. And then I thanked him for showing me what…

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  • Joshua’s Story of Abuse

    Joshua’s Story of Abuse

    Joshua’s Signs of Being Abused Coerced into ceasing contact with friends, having a knife pulled on me while being called the name of my ex’s first husband, put-downs towards myself/family/friends. After I left: having calls go to my workplace asking that I be fired, calls to my ex-wife’s lawyer to try to get my son

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