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About Relationship Abuse


  • Letting Go of Teen’s Choices After He’s Lived with Domestic Violence

    Letting Go of Teen’s Choices After He’s Lived with Domestic Violence

    However, I am entirely certain that letting go is the right thing to do. I must allow Marc to make his own choices and then face the consequences of those choices.

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  • Crazy-Making In Short

    Crazy-making is your abuser’s ability to throw you off balance and keep you teetering. Abusers accomplish this by saying one thing and then swearing they said the opposite or didn’t say it at all, by talking the talk but not walking the walk, by claiming that you are crazy and unbalanced, etc. If you’re a…

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  • BANG! It’s ABUSE!

    BANG! It’s ABUSE!

    Verbal abuse happens out of nowhere. It’s as if he waits for me to settle down, calm down, relax a little…and then BANG! There it is.

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  • Cycle of Abuse Video

    I wish I knew how to explain all of this without sounding like a crybaby or that I’m blaming my abuser for everything. I really wish I could come across as someone who knew exactly what she was doing and knew exactly what she was talking about and had the answers for everything…not that I…

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  • Entitled Men – Why Might Some Men Abuse the Ones They Love?

    Entitled Men – Why Might Some Men Abuse the Ones They Love?

    Entitled men are those who believe they deserve respect from others because they’re male. Entitled men have no excuse to be abusive, but this could be a reason why they choose to control women, children and even other men. Explore why society may form some men into entitled, abusive spouses.

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  • Silenced

    This is how it feels to live with a verbal abuser. Nothing I say or do is of my own choosing. He assigns motives to me…some good and some bad depending on his mood, and tomorrow, he could change his mind. Nothing I say or do is said or done for the reasons I give.…

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  • Anonymity Compromised

    Anonymity Compromised

    My husband found my website and blog. I figured he already had found them, but I suppose he just wasn’t interested or didn’t make the connection between what he saw me doing at home and what was going online…or whatever. At first he was angry, but now he isn’t. At least, that’s what he says,…

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  • Thinking About It

    The idea to make a website documenting the verbal abuse and my reactions/thoughts relating to it came to me around the time I realized it was happening – about October or November of last year (2008). I never hid the fact that I was making a website about verbal abuse from my husband. In fact,…

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  • I Wish I Wasn’t Sending This Email

    I wish you could take responsibility for the things you do and say ALL of the time – not only when the chips are down and your career or your marriage. You only seem to care about how you act or what you say when there’s a possiblilty that someone besides me will see or…

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  • Mind Games: Use Them To Detach From Domestic Abuse

    Living in abuse takes a thought out strategy. It’s not good to be surprised and thrown off balance all the time. Could you turn your abuser into a lab rat?

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