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Domestic Violence Problems


  • Escaping Abuse Is (Always) the Best Thing to Do

    Escaping Abuse Is (Always) the Best Thing to Do

    Escaping abuse means turning your life upside down, but the trouble of escaping abuse is well worth it if you know what to expect when you go. Read my new post at HealthyPlace.com titled Escaping Abuse: 5 Things Your Therapist Won’t Tell You

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  • Hindsight Can’t Help Me But Could Help You Understand Abuse

    Hindsight shows me my mistakes in thinking. It shows me how my love for him blinded me. Maybe if you can see my hindsight before it happens to you, you’ll get OUT. I now understand that no choice he presented to me would end the abuse. I left the Army-abuse continued. Got pregnant-abuse continued. Doing…

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  • My Abusive Marriage Recap

    My Abusive Marriage Recap

    While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So I thought I’d add them to a brand new page and see if brevity works as well as a deep…

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  • Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships

    Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships

    Do you have these verbal abuse symptoms? If you are depressed, anxious, lonely or feel you do not know who you are anymore, or many other debilitating conditions both mental and physical, you might be a victim of verbal abuse and domestic abuse or violence.

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  • Abuse Is Never Love But I Wanted It to Be

    What I didn’t understand at the time was that if Will wanted to lash out at me, it did not matter what I said or did or how I said or did it. The purpose of yelling at me, accusing me of lying, telling me I was a horrid mother, insisting I was cheating and…

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  • My Abuser Has PTSD. What Do I Do?

    My Abuser Has PTSD. What Do I Do?

    I’ve never been to war. I’ve never been raped at knife-point or fought for my life from strangers. But I did live with an unpredictable, angry and abusive man for over 17 years. And that is way more than enough time to develop hyper-anxiety, difficulty concentrating, experiencing overwhelming guilt or shame, and any other PTSD…

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  • How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

    How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

    Our family is and was dysfunctional as they grew up. The effects of Will’s and my behaviors affected them greatly but in very different ways. However, they are not children anymore and I want to give them more privacy than I did when they were “my babies” and minors growing up in abuse.

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  • Lisa – Leaving Abuse

    Lisa – Leaving Abuse

    Leaving abuse became complicated for Lisa when she realized she wanted the ready-made family her abuser provided. She had to leave children behind.

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  • #TheDayItStarted

    Red Door Productions introduces #TheDayItStarted as a prompt for abuse victims to tell about their earliest memory of domestic abuse.

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  • Triggered & Angry – Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Triggered & Angry – Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Anyone experiencing repeated traumas as with domestic abuse can be triggered unexpectedly. Even so, identifying triggers leads us to better mental health because once we identify the triggers, we can stop them from hurting us.

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