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Effects of Abuse


  • My Abusive Marriage Recap

    My Abusive Marriage Recap

    While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So I thought I’d add them to a brand new page and see if brevity works as well as a deep…

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  • Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships

    Verbal Abuse Symptoms In Long-Term Relationships

    Do you have these verbal abuse symptoms? If you are depressed, anxious, lonely or feel you do not know who you are anymore, or many other debilitating conditions both mental and physical, you might be a victim of verbal abuse and domestic abuse or violence.

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  • Abuse Is Never Love But I Wanted It to Be

    What I didn’t understand at the time was that if Will wanted to lash out at me, it did not matter what I said or did or how I said or did it. The purpose of yelling at me, accusing me of lying, telling me I was a horrid mother, insisting I was cheating and…

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  • How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

    How Does Witnessing Domestic Abuse Affect Children?

    Our family is and was dysfunctional as they grew up. The effects of Will’s and my behaviors affected them greatly but in very different ways. However, they are not children anymore and I want to give them more privacy than I did when they were “my babies” and minors growing up in abuse.

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  • #TheDayItStarted

    Red Door Productions introduces #TheDayItStarted as a prompt for abuse victims to tell about their earliest memory of domestic abuse.

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  • Triggered & Angry – Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Triggered & Angry – Healing from Domestic Abuse

    Anyone experiencing repeated traumas as with domestic abuse can be triggered unexpectedly. Even so, identifying triggers leads us to better mental health because once we identify the triggers, we can stop them from hurting us.

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  • Nothing on My Mind – Memories of Abuse

    Nothing on My Mind – Memories of Abuse

    The effects of abuse last longer than I hoped. I am healing from it, but memories continue to assault my mind. I just want to be healed. Now.

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  • Abuse Survivor Fights PTSD & Depression

    Abuse Survivor Fights PTSD & Depression

    Today is rough. I looked back on my life to see how my mental illnesses affect my relationships with others. This is hard to do because I didn’t ask for these mental illnesses; I wasn’t born with PTSD or depression! I never asked for the car accident with my mum, and I definitely never asked for what…

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  • I Feel Ashamed of My PTSD Diagnosis

    I Feel Ashamed of My PTSD Diagnosis

    A couple of weeks ago, I received a second mental health diagnosis of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I’ve long wondered if my symptoms added up to PTSD but knowing that a psychiatrist believes I have PTSD affected me. Negatively. Being diagnosed with PTSD affected me negatively. There. I said it. It makes me feel powerless.…

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  • Abuse And The Quest For Perfection

    “Perfection” bedevils many of us, myself included. Perhaps you suffer from it yourself. I could blame my experience with abuse for it because, as you well know, abusers expect perfection from us victims. Not our idea of perfection, but their idea of the perfect wife, husband, child or friend.

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