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  • Living in My Abusive Marriage

    Living in My Abusive Marriage

    Living with abuse is horrible. I wish I could go back to the days when I thought I was a bad person or mentally ill. At least then I only had to fix myself.

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  • Sheri’s Story of Leaving Abuse

    Sheri’s Story of Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? My therapist asked me why I stayed. I said it was because my daughters needed their father (I didn’t know he was abusing them at the time). He told me they’d end up with someone just like him, I told him they wouldn’t, they’d know better. He

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  • Jim’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    Jim’s Story – Leaving Abuse

    What happened that made you decide to leave? Amazon.com WidgetsShe dumped me again. I had no choice. I’m glad she didn’t change her mind again. I stopped talking to her completely because we were still being verbally abusive to each other after the breakup. How did you feel about your abuser and/or your relationship in

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  • Police Report May Do You No Good

    Police Report May Do You No Good

    Domestic violence and abuse gets complicated FAST. It seems abusers know all the tricks and many states have started arresting both people no matter who reports the incident. No matter what, if you are a victim, you should call the police, but think twice if you physically attacked first.

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  • The Haunted House – How to Explain Verbal Abuse

    The Haunted House – How to Explain Verbal Abuse

    If you’ve tried to explain verbal abuse to anyone, you may have found yourself at a loss for words. You may doubt your ability to paint an exact picture, or maybe when the words come out, your friend gets a blank look on her face. You think she wants to say, “What’s so bad about…

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  • Mothers Separated From Children: One Way to Connect If The Abuser Wins Custody

    Mothers Separated From Children: One Way to Connect If The Abuser Wins Custody

    And if you do lose custody, “a study of cases brought to appeal showed reversals in the mothers’ favor when domestic violence was considered” (Daniel Saunders, PhD). So always appeal an initial horrible judgment, and find an attorney who is well-versed in domestic violence from the get go.

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  • Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

    Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

    Abusers are cunning and smart, masters at planning, persuasion, and execution. Their intelligence minus the ability to feel makes them dangerous.

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  • When Is Your Life in Danger?

    When Is Your Life in Danger?

    When You Should Leave an Abusive Relationship Is your life in danger? The fact is, no matter what type of abuse you’re suffering in your relationship because there is abuse present, your life is in danger. Verbal abuse and emotional abuse will escalate to physical violence. And physical violence, no matter how slight, can lead

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  • Letters About Abuse

    Letters About Abuse

    In the months after leaving my abusive husband, there was so much I wanted to explain to my boys! My oldest son’s anger was heavy and dense. I could reach out and touch my youngest son’s broken heart on his sleeve. I wanted so badly to explain my side of things…but I couldn’t.

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  • Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Brainwashing and Abuse in Relationships Brainwashing occurs in long-term abusive relationships but begins in the very beginning. I once pictured a brainwash-able person as a prisoner of war. Much later, I understood that brainwashing easily affects people just like me. I doubt my husband brainwashed me on purpose. He did not have the military’s training

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