Staying in Abusive Relationships
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Change Through Resistance Feels Like a Fight
Maybe it hurts because it’s supposed to hurt. He meant to hurt me. “Goodbye and good luck.” I think he meant to threaten me, too. The “good luck” part was not lovingly said, you know.…
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I Just Don’t Trust Him
Maybe I’m being too cynical. Maybe he really does want to improve our communication; maybe he really does want to fix “our” problem. Maybe I really should just “get over” my trust issues and let…
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Abuse Is a Web
Making verbalabusejournals.com is a healing process for me. Writing the pages, updating my entries (both past and present), sharing resources that have helped me…all of it serves to remind me that even now I struggle…
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On Hold For Military Investigation
Right now, we’re in the middle of a military investigation about domestic violence. It couldn’t have come at a worse time, but is the result of the report I made back in December 2008. Why…
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Couples’ Counseling Does Not Help Abusive Relationships
I want him to take responsibility for our problems as he expects me to do & expects as much of himself as he expects of me. I want equality in our marriage. However, I tend…
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No Food
“I didn’t eat all day.” He said. “Why not?” I asked him. “Because no one told me there was any food ready.”
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Mr. Nice Guy
One of the hardest parts of living in this abusive situation is knowing that “Mr. Nice Guy” will be replaced by “the other one” – the guy that is angry, loud, mean, insulting, and abusive.…