Staying in Abusive Relationships

Safety Planning Process Can Be Emotionally Messy

Facing the truth isn’t a failure One of the toughest things about the safety planning process is that it forces you to face the abuse in your relationship. When you look at your abusive relationship truthfully, the panic to leave begins. You rush to judgment on yourself, thinking things like: Please, refrain from judging yourself.…
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Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log

Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log A private place to keep track of what’s happening **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Whether you’re still figuring out what to call it, still living with it, or trying to decide what to do next, the Verbal Abuse Incident and…
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Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave

Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook A Comprehensive Plan to Help Keep You Safer Whether You Stay or Leave **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → The Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook, now in its Fourth Edition, gives you the tools to build a safety plan that fits your…
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Incident Log and Safety Plan Workbook Bundle

Incident Log and Safety Plan Workbook Bundle Keep the record and build the plan, both workbooks in one purchase **Need this one to look like something else? Get the discreet version instead → Two workbooks for $19. Bought apart they run $22. The Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log is the record. You write down…
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Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen

Verbal Abuse Incident and Pattern Log: Keep Your Own Record of What’s Said and Done Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Memory gets slippery when someone keeps telling you it didn’t happen that way. The Log gives you somewhere to…
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Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Bundle

Incident Log and Safety Plan Bundle: Both Workbooks Named for privacy: Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Bundle. Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. Nineteen dollars for the pair. Twenty-two dollars if you bought them one at a time. One of them is for writing down what happens. Dates,…
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More Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen

Domestic Violence Safety Plan Workbook: Stay Safer Whether You Stay or Leave Named for privacy: More Recipes from Mama’s Kitchen Buy from this page if nobody in your house can know what you bought. This is the fourth edition, and it works the way a workbook works. It asks the questions and you write the…
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Emotions After Leaving Your Abuser

Escaping Abuse Is More Than Leaving Escaping an abusive relationship involves more than having a safety plan and walking out the door. In addition to the logistical planning, you also must plan for some confusing emotions after leaving your abuser. The loaded emotions create a minefield that I wasn’t prepared for. But I hope to…
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A Guided Meditation for Abuse Victims

Get the Abuser’s Voice Out of Your Head Put on your headphones, get comfy, and press the play arrow. You’ll be very happy that you did. My sister, Erin Chavez, created this guided meditation for domestic abuse survivors, and it helped me the first time I used it. I don’t want to spoil the visualization…
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Verbal Self-Defense: What You Must Know

Stop or Slow the Escalation of Abusive Anger Verbal abuse underlies most domestic violence, so verbal self-defense can help you when your abuser flies off the handle. Hostile language is dangerous to our health not only because of its destructive nature but because it so often abusive anger escalates into physical violence. Learning the art of verbal…
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