My husband deployed. Usually, when he’s gone, we hear from him once a week. Even then the conversations are short for various reasons including money, time-sharing with the others, etc. But this time it’s different, and I don’t exactly know how to handle it.
When he left we were going through the nice phase, but I could tell it was for manipulation purposes.
Things between us had gotten so bad in October-December that he HAD to be nice to be sure I’d be here when he got back.
This deployment is much different from the others in which he truly was “away.” This time, he’s using Skype to keep tabs on me. I mean, keep in touch with me. I deleted Skype from my computer so he cannot interrupt me while I’m working. He doesn’t like it.
This entry is one day out of the journal I kept while I was still in the marriage. The whole thing, in order, is the book: My Abusive Marriage . . . and what i’m doing in it. Or read the first pages if you want to see whether it’s for you.