During My Abusive Marriage
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Verbal Abuse in Marriage Blog
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My Abusive Marriage Recap
While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our…
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I Lived a Fairy Tale During Domestic Abuse
Once upon a time, I lived in a world of disapproval and fear. I listened to a man who demanded I make him happy, then grew angrier when I could not. I thought something was…
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The Desire to ‘Fix and Please’ Is Codependency
Quietone said that she remembers me saying my desire to “fix and please” plays a factor in the abuse. She is right. If I took down this site, it would be to please Will; the…
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Seek and Ye Shall Find
Will and I were unhappily married and I once mistakenly blamed him for every one of our missteps and evils. Although I thought I was trying to make him happy, I was really trying to…
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Domestic Violence Hits Home: I Left Twice
Leaving my abusive marriage happened by surprise, but not unexpectedly. I knew I would leave, but I didn’t have it planned for when it happened.
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The Four Sides to Every Slippery Truth
There are always 3 versions of truth when there is a truth to be told – your version, their version, and the exact record of events imprinted upon the universe. There’s a fourth version of…
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Grateful That I Reached Out to All of You
For anyone out there who is in an abusive situation, it is time for you to reach out too. It is time to begin remembering that people love you, really love you. And if you…
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Don’t Tell Me Not to Worry: You Don’t Know Him Like I Do
I doubt it. You don’t know him like I do, so please stop trying to make me pretend that I know him as YOU do. Please, don’t tell me not to worry.