During My Abusive Marriage
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Subconscious Habits
Elements of this stinking thinking are evident before marrying Will, but I somehow overcame them (at least partially if not entirely). Or maybe my parents didn’t direct me in any certain way so what I…
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Looking for the Enemy In Abusive Marriage Seems Unhelpful
I am not saying that what I habitually do or say EXCUSES any abuse, nor am I saying that what I do or say CONTROLS Will’s actions or reactions. I’m saying that the things I…
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Therapy With Abuser Is A Waste of My Time And His
The therapist and Will agreed that women do not keep to the subject. Although that may be true some of the time (I am not above embracing a negative stereotype if it helps, which it…
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Anger Management
I’m finding myself in need of anger management skills. Last night, while watching a documentary about the Army Rangers, my husband became horribly upset at the fact there was a woman psychologist present at the…
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Counseling
Does that mean that I will take the abuse at home? No. I don’t have to take it. I will continue to say things like, “please don’t talk to me like that” and “stop”. Quietone…
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Fragments
I cannot afford to assume that the goodness will continue. When I go to cook dinner, I can take a minute to relish in the previous moment, think that something good may have happened, BUT…
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You’re a Housewife. Be Grateful Dammit. And Smile.
To my husband, I am a housewife. He said so. He rejected any other role because none of them bring home any money. And after rejecting me wholly (since housewife is only a fraction of…
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Cryptogram
Okay, let’s do something a little different. I’m not going to tell you what this conversation was about. Instead, I’m going to share what I wrote down, what I heard him say verbatim, and let…
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Loveseat
There have been no more fights between Will and I. We aren’t fighting. We have had a couple of discussions that were intense, yet they did not turn into fights. That is a good thing,…
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XXOO
I went to the group meeting yesterday and met several women. Some still in their abusive relationships and some have left; some were in my age range and some were very young women. Some were…