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Domestic Violence Problems


  • The Army and Domestic Violence and Abuse

    The Army and Domestic Violence and Abuse

    For the love of Pete, please, Army spouses, understand that you CAN report domestic abuse in your home WITHOUT your soldier losing their career! Army policy may require counseling, classes, and interviews, but your report…

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  • Walking the Tightrope Between Everything and Nothing

    He often says that he’s put me on a pedestal, expecting more from me than anyone else. In reality, he’s put me on a tightrope, expecting me to be exactly what he thinks he “should” be…

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  • I'm angry because

    “What is going on inside your mind to trigger the emotion of anger? I know you have this answer.” ~Erin on When is it okay for me to be angry? I am angry because I…

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  • Hellfire

    “…Jesus had been known to become angry when something was wrong. ” ~ (part of) Kathy’s comment to When is it okay for me to be angry? Yep. Jesus threw a down and out hissy…

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  • When Is It Okay for Me to Be Angry?

    When Is It Okay for Me to Be Angry?

    So when is it okay for me to be angry? How do I get rid of it, find a solution for it, or at least just FEEL it, righteous or not, and move on?

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  • Hurtful Words Tell You Who You Are Not

    Hurtful Words Tell You Who You Are Not

    You Define Who You Are My Mamaw (great-grandmother) said “Give ’em to me” via a psychic last summer. Mamaw was talking about the hurtful words I have absorbed and any hurtful words I may hear…

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  • Subconscious Habits

    Elements of this stinking thinking are evident before marrying Will, but I somehow overcame them (at least partially if not entirely). Or maybe my parents didn’t direct me in any certain way so what I…

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  • Marriage Counseling Does Not Help Abusive Relationships

    I want him to take responsibility for our problems as he expects me to do & expects as much of himself as he expects of me. I want equality in our marriage. However, I tend…

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  • Anger Management

    I’m finding myself in need of anger management skills. Last night, while watching a documentary about the Army Rangers, my husband became horribly upset at the fact there was a woman psychologist present at the…

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  • Fragments

    I cannot afford to assume that the goodness will continue. When I go to cook dinner, I can take a minute to relish in the previous moment, think that something good may have happened, BUT…

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