Domestic Violence Problems
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Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries
I laid bare the last protected areas of my soul in hope that he could understand me. I just knew if he understood me, the arguments would end.
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Sobriety Fixes Nothing
Drinking only lowers inhibitions – it lets you be “more you” and gives the abuser permission to abuse.
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Boundaries Are Crucial for Abuse Victims
Once you set your personal boundaries, you do not have to tell a person who crosses your line why you’re doing what you’re doing unless you want to do so. With no warning at all, you can simply walk away from the conversation or interrupt to say what you need to say. There’s no guarantee…
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What Does Living with Domestic Abuse Feel Like?
Living with domestic abuse feels like you’re carrying around a 500-pound weight–except you don’t realize you’re carrying the weight. You don’t remember how much grander life felt before you picked up the weight, because adding it to your burdens happened gradually. Imperceptibly, Abuse built its home on your shoulders. Effects of Living With Domestic Abuse…
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Overcome Anxiety and Fear: Exorcise The Demon Meditation
For example, when I admitted to myself that the demon in my marriage was ABUSE, the abuse held less power over me. The demon flared up in a fiery attempt to terrify me, yet, after its temper tantrum, I stood strong and continued to call it by name. Will thinks I demonized him, but I…
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Dream World of Abuse in Relationships
I wrote this some time ago, before leaving my abuser: Poe wrote, “All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.” Perhaps his statement sheds light on why abuse is so difficult to describe, so difficult to recognize, end, and admit. Living in abuse, I know that nothing is real. Every…
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Anniversary Anxiety Related to Domestic Violence
February 1st last year was on Monday. Will and I had gone to court the Thursday before, and I had told the judge I agreed that he could see the boys. That first weekend, he wouldn’t take them because he hadn’t received his paperwork and was afraid that I would call the law on him…