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  • Emilie’s Story of Abuse

    Emilie’s Story of Abuse

    How Emilie Found Out She Was Being Abused I’m still not sure. I’m 18, it still feels like I’m too much of a child to be in this mess. Words Emilie Chose to Describe Her Abusive Experience Confused, Angry, Embarrassed Emilie’s Story of Abuse Abuse. Most people think bruises, broken bones, congealer, long sleeves and of course, fear.…

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  • Mike’s Story of Abuse

    Mike’s Story of Abuse

    Mike’s Signs of Being Abused I eventually realized it was a bad situation. Mike’s Emotional Signs of Abuse Sadness, Anger, Guilt Mike’s Story of Abuse The Broken Child Your voice was like thunder that rocked my room and my world. It shook my soul and crushed my spirit. Where it came from doesn’t matter. You…

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  • Brian’s Story of Abuse

    Brian’s Signs of Being Abused For a 3-year-old growing up in an abusive home . . . the arguments, screaming and violence became too much to bear! Brian’s Emotional Signs of Abuse Fear, Anxiety, and Hurt Brian’s Story of Abuse Domestic assault is all about control; the most insidious state a husband and wife can descend to. From…

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  • Amanda’s Story of Abuse

    Amanda’s Story of Abuse

    Amanda’s Signs of Being Abused I always knew I was different. I was one of six children in the house, and I was the only one ever being hurt. Amanda’s Emotional Signs of Abuse Unworthiness, Disgust, Anger Amanda’s Story of Abuse Ever since I was a wee child I had it. Bruises, scars, blood, it all…

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  • Crazymaking: Abuse That Makes You Doubt Your Own Reality

    Crazymaking: Abuse That Makes You Doubt Your Own Reality

    Crazymaking confuses, causes paranoia and makes you doubt your perceptions. Crazy makers do this on purpose because a weakened victim is easier to control.

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  • Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships

    Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships

    We abuse victims have rules we must follow to keep our abusers happy. Unfortunately, those rules can change at any time. And then change back again. Hmph.

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  • Things Abusers Say and Do

    Things Abusers Say and Do

    Things abusers say and do are designed to control you. Whether abusers say and do these things knowingly or unconsciously, the result is the same: you feel lower than dirt, or become afraid and intimidated. In your weakened state, your abuser finds it much easier to gain power over you.

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  • Anatomy of a Fight

    Anatomy of a Fight

    Originally I titled this “What I Cause” to reflect the feelings my abuser wanted me to assume. It worked for many years. He said it was my fault he blew up in rages, my fault he calmed down and used all his strength to revert to a position of protector, the one who had to…

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  • It’s All You

    Blame causes the victim to believe the abuse is their fault. The abuser claims, “You made me do that!” and “I wouldn’t lose my temper if you …!” Don’t believe it. If you were powerful enough to “make” them yell at you, then why aren’t you powerful enough to “make” them be nice to you?

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  • PTSD Makes a Noisy Mind

    PTSD Makes a Noisy Mind

    I forgot how anxious I was until after I left my ex and experienced peace for the first time in 18 years. There is such a difference from when I lived with the abuse! If I’m not yet at peace, that’s okay. It will come. Whatever “this” is beats what I used to feel by…

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