During My Abusive Marriage
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Safety Planning Process Can Be Emotionally Messy
Facing the truth isn’t a failure One of the toughest things about the safety planning process is that it forces you to face the abuse in your relationship. When you look at your abusive relationship truthfully, the panic to leave begins. You rush to judgment on yourself, thinking things like: Please, refrain from judging yourself.…
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My Abusive Marriage Recap
While reorganizing this website, I came across some pages that don’t fit the site any longer. But I didn’t want to get rid of their brief synopses of the abuse suffered through the years. So I thought I’d add them to a brand new page and see if brevity works as well as a deep…
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Explained Myself to End Verbal Abuse
He knows what he is doing. There is no empathy for “fucking whores” & he redirects my pain to the business of being married. Insurance & meaningless emails.
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Living in My Abusive Marriage
Living with abuse is horrible. I wish I could go back to the days when I thought I was a bad person or mentally ill. At least then I only had to fix myself.
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Received Counseling from the Army’s Morale Welfare and Recreation Program
If you press charges and go to court and your military spouse is found guilty, you’ll receive counseling and other services and the soldier will most likely receive a Dishonorable Discharge. If the soldier is found guilty of domestic violence in court, victims of domestic violence qualify for Transitional Compensation (Financial). In my case, that…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our current problems is also wrong. Will blames me for our problems without taking any responsibility for his behavior.
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Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries
I laid bare the last protected areas of my soul in hope that he could understand me. I just knew if he understood me, the arguments would end.
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Set Personal Boundaries
I Didn’t Understand Personal Boundaries No one ever pointed out to me that we each have personal boundaries. I knew when I didn’t like someone standing too close to me, but the idea that individuals can and do set emotional boundaries confounded me. I do set boundaries with friends, strangers, family members…I mean, I don’t…
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How to Survive Abuse – Maybe
I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action could be. Please talk to someone face-to-face about what’s going on with you. Don’t bother explaining your pain to your…