Staying in Abusive Relationships
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I Tried Marriage Counseling
Marriage counseling is designed for couples who have a failure in communication or emotional connection. Abuse is NOT a communication failure, nor is it lacking an emotional connection. Abuse twists up love into an unrecognizable…
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I’m in Long-Term Counseling
Find “the right” counselor. You get to decide who is the right counselor, no one else. If you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist after three visits, continue counseling but start looking for a better…
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When Is Your Life in Danger?
When You Should Leave an Abusive Relationship Is your life in danger? The fact is, no matter what type of abuse you’re suffering in your relationship because there is abuse present, your life is in…
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Self-Care Activities for Domestic Abuse Survivors
They Help You Feel Better Fast Do your abuser’s words haunt you? When his voice continues ringing loudly in your mind, it’s difficult to stay free of your abusive relationship! The key is to replace that…
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Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups
Abusers, when you think about it, are truly ridiculous people. Everything they saw we are, they are. Abusers project their worst fears about themselves onto us and then hate us for representing their fear. Support…
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I Told Everyone About the Abuse
This outreach benefits me every day. I no longer feel alone or voiceless. Because of reaching out on my blog, I found the courage to locate domestic violence organizations in my local area for face…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our…
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Sobriety Fixes Nothing
Drinking only lowers inhibitions – it lets you be “more you” and gives the abuser permission to abuse.
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I’m Hoping The Abuse Will Resolve Itself
Hope is wonderful when you wish for it not to rain on a picnic. Hope is grand for tossing the dice. Hope does not work when you want to end domestic abuse.