Staying in Abusive Relationships
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When Is Your Life in Danger?
When You Should Leave an Abusive Relationship Is your life in danger? The fact is, no matter what type of abuse you’re suffering in your relationship because there is abuse present, your life is in danger. Verbal abuse and emotional abuse will escalate to physical violence. And physical violence, no matter how slight, can lead…
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Self-Care Activities for Domestic Abuse Survivors
They Help You Feel Better Fast Do your abuser’s words haunt you? When his voice continues ringing loudly in your mind, it’s difficult to stay free of your abusive relationship! The key is to replace that voice with your own…but sometimes, due to your severe abuse, your own voice is just as tough on you as your…
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Attended Domestic Violence Support Groups
Abusers, when you think about it, are truly ridiculous people. Everything they saw we are, they are. Abusers project their worst fears about themselves onto us and then hate us for representing their fear. Support groups help you see this and can give back your sense of humor.
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Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships
We abuse victims have rules we must follow to keep our abusers happy. Unfortunately, those rules can change at any time. And then change back again. Hmph.
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I Told Everyone About the Abuse
This outreach benefits me every day. I no longer feel alone or voiceless. Because of reaching out on my blog, I found the courage to locate domestic violence organizations in my local area for face to face help. Groups and counselors who know about domestic abuse are invaluable to recovery (and simply getting through the…
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‘You Hate Men!’ Is Diversion . . . and Retraumatization
Telling me that my rape is the source of our problems is a diversion. It turns me away from whatever Will is doing and causes me to examine myself. By blaming my past for our current problems is also wrong. Will blames me for our problems without taking any responsibility for his behavior.
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Coming Apart – Losing Personal Boundaries
I laid bare the last protected areas of my soul in hope that he could understand me. I just knew if he understood me, the arguments would end.
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Sobriety Fixes Nothing
Drinking only lowers inhibitions – it lets you be “more you” and gives the abuser permission to abuse.
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I’m Hoping The Abuse Will Resolve Itself
Hope is wonderful when you wish for it not to rain on a picnic. Hope is grand for tossing the dice. Hope does not work when you want to end domestic abuse.