Staying in Abusive Relationships
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Blocking and Diverting
What Is Blocking and Diverting and Why Do Abusers Use It? Blocking and diverting is basically changing the topic of a conversation or refusing to participate in it to gain control. Changing a normal conversation into one that shocks and hurts you is a control tactic designed to disorient and confuse you. A confused person is easier…
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What to Do If Codependency Made You Manipulative Too
Hello everyone, this week I’ve thought about the “mess” codependent behavior causes in our hearts and minds. It’s so confusing to live in abuse, confusing when you want to leave it, and confusing once you are free. Confusion causes us to act unlike ourselves, distrust ourselves, and try to manipulate for the greater good (which…
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How to Protect Yourself While You Stay in an Abusive Relationship
Learn to Stay as Safely as You Can Choosing to stay in an abusive relationship is a valid choice. Despite the horrors of an abusive relationship, sometimes people choose to stay with the person abusing them. Maybe you have children, no money of your own, nowhere safe to go, or a partner who has threatened…
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PTSD from Domestic Abuse
PTSD Affects 10 Percent of Domestic Abuse Survivors Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from domestic abuse affects a great number of abused and previously abused women. Women, in general, develop PTSD from domestic abuse more often than men in part because … women are more likely to experience trauma within established relationships or their traumatic exposures are more chronic than…
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Verbal Abuse Books That Teach the Vocabulary of Abuse
Verbal abuse books helped me discover that my marriage problems were rooted in verbal and emotional abuse. I felt relief because up until I read the library of verbal abuse books available, I thought that I was losing my mind. My abusive husband had almost convinced me that every problem in our marriage was my…
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3 Things Domestic Abuse Survivors Know That Victims Don’t
Only Domestic Abuse Survivors Will Read This Only domestic abuse survivors will read this post. If you’re an abuse victim, you’re somewhere else online researching what you can do about fixing your relationship or marriage, not searching for information about abuse. You see, abuse victims don’t know they’re victims. Abuse victims don’t recognize abuse, so…
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Quick Self-Care Tips for People in Abusive Relationships
Quick self-care tips for people in abusive relationships must help you redirect your thinking away from the abuser and onto yourself. This is important because we’re conditioned to think only of the abuser’s behavior. Whether the abuser is being nice or horrible, our lives center on what he or she is doing, thinking or feeling.…
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Empowered Healing from Domestic Abuse
Empowered Healing Recipe By Anonymous I see my recipe for empowered healing from emotional abuse as an ongoing process. I see myself as a cook making a long, slow meal cooked over multiple days. Creating this recipe is a labor of self-love. I’m constantly tasting the mix as I go along and adding a pinch of…
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My Abusive Marriage . . . and what i’m doing in it
For eighteen years I could not explain my marriage to anyone, including myself. In front of other people he was charming, and I was the one who seemed difficult. I did not start writing to prove anything. I started writing so I would know what was true, because his version of an argument kept replacing…