Category: Staying in Abusive Relationships
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How to Survive Abuse – Maybe
I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action could be. Please talk to someone face-to-face about what’s going on with you. Don’t bother explaining your pain to your…
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Safety Planning for Domestic Violence and Abuse Victims
Safety planning is priority number 1 if you’re being abused. Safety planning should include knowledge-building, and this safety plan includes an education.
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Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples
“I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to decide if I’m going to stay around you while you act that way…or not. Boundaries for abusive relationships help you…
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First Steps For Abuse Victims
The shock of discovering you are in an abusive relationship can turn to panic over what to do. The following guide will help you clear your thinking after weeks or years of abuse. These are the first steps for abuse victims. Over your time in an abusive relationship, you’ve likely developed some side effects of abuse…
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About Kellie Jo Holly
Kellie Jo Holly is recognized as an artist, writer, and advocate for survivors of domestic violence. She is known for her contributions to raising awareness about domestic abuse, particularly through her work in creating the “Verbal Abuse Journals” website. Kellie Jo Holly established the Verbal Abuse Journals website which served as a platform to share…
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Am I Abused? (A Quiz)
Victims in abusive relationships wake up every morning wondering if the abuser will be nice that day. The abuser does not have bad days. Abuser’s have consistent bad behaviors. This Am I Abused Quiz can help you tell the difference between abuse and the occasional bad day.
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You Can’t Make Your Abuser Abuse You
You can’t make your abuser abuse you. The responsibility for abusing falls directly on the shoulders of the perpetrator, not the victim. Yet so many victims (me too!) want to somehow make the abuse “our fault”. I think that I wanted to accept responsibility for the abuse because if I caused it, then I could…
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Why Did It Take Me So Long to Leave My Abusive Marriage?
HealthyPlace.com interviewed me about leaving an abusive marriage yesterday. It is now almost a year after I left my abuser, but before our divorce is final. I have some issues with the interview, and I’m not certain I delivered my message as clearly as I wanted. I want to use this post to clear up…
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Verbal Abuse PSA
These verbal abuse PSAs (public service announcements) shows the damage verbal abuse can do to a person and what verbal abuse sounds like. Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not…
