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Effects of Abuse


  • The Haunted House – How to Explain Verbal Abuse

    The Haunted House – How to Explain Verbal Abuse

    If you’ve tried to explain verbal abuse to anyone, you may have found yourself at a loss for words. You may doubt your ability to paint an exact picture, or maybe when the words come out, your friend gets a blank look on her face. You think she wants to say, “What’s so bad about…

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  • Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

    Why Do Abusers Abuse Others?

    Abusers are cunning and smart, masters at planning, persuasion, and execution. Their intelligence minus the ability to feel makes them dangerous.

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  • Letters About Abuse

    In the months after leaving my abusive husband, there was so much I wanted to explain to my boys! My oldest son’s anger was heavy and dense. I could reach out and touch my youngest son’s broken heart on his sleeve. I wanted so badly to explain my side of things…but I couldn’t.

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  • Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Are You A Great Candidate for Brainwashing?

    Brainwashing and Abuse in Relationships Brainwashing occurs in long-term abusive relationships but begins in the very beginning. I once pictured a brainwash-able person as a prisoner of war. Much later, I understood that brainwashing easily affects people just like me. I doubt my husband brainwashed me on purpose. He did not have the military’s training…

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  • Anxiety From Domestic Abuse Is Tough To Deal With!

    Anxiety From Domestic Abuse Is Tough To Deal With!

    Anxiety is a big deal for abuse victims, past and present. Sometimes I still find my heart racing at sounds that remind me of my “old life” in my abusive marriage. Fortunately, now I recognize my anxiety instead of not feeling it. Anxiety was such a huge part of my life when I lived with…

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  • Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an Abusive Relationship

    Ending an abusive relationship begins by telling someone what you are going through. Don’t continue suffering in silence. Talk about it.

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  • Emilie’s Story of Abuse

    Emilie’s Story of Abuse

    How Emilie Found Out She Was Being Abused I’m still not sure. I’m 18, it still feels like I’m too much of a child to be in this mess. Words Emilie Chose to Describe Her Abusive Experience Confused, Angry, Embarrassed Emilie’s Story of Abuse Abuse. Most people think bruises, broken bones, congealer, long sleeves and of course, fear.…

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  • Crazymaking: Abuse That Makes You Doubt Your Own Reality

    Crazymaking: Abuse That Makes You Doubt Your Own Reality

    Crazymaking confuses, causes paranoia and makes you doubt your perceptions. Crazy makers do this on purpose because a weakened victim is easier to control.

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  • Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships

    Crazymaking Rules for Abusive Relationships

    We abuse victims have rules we must follow to keep our abusers happy. Unfortunately, those rules can change at any time. And then change back again. Hmph.

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  • Things Abusers Say and Do

    Things Abusers Say and Do

    Things abusers say and do are designed to control you. Whether abusers say and do these things knowingly or unconsciously, the result is the same: you feel lower than dirt, or become afraid and intimidated. In your weakened state, your abuser finds it much easier to gain power over you.

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