Abuse Hides in the Dark. Turn on Your Light.

Effects of Abuse


  • Entitled Men – Why Might Some Men Abuse the Ones They Love?

    Entitled men are those who believe they deserve respect from others because they’re male. Entitled men have no excuse to be abusive, but this could be a reason why they choose to control women, children and even other men. Explore why society may form some men into entitled, abusive spouses.

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  • Just Like I Thought: I am a woman who…

    My mother asked me to complete this sentence: “I am a woman who…”. And I am having a horrible time with it. I realize the exercise is to help me define myself, and I am fearful of doing that. What if I’m no one? Or worse, what if I’m no one special?

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  • Silenced

    This is how it feels to live with a verbal abuser. Nothing I say or do is of my own choosing. He assigns motives to me…some good and some bad depending on his mood, and tomorrow, he could change his mind. Nothing I say or do is said or done for the reasons I give.…

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  • I Just Don’t Trust Him

    Maybe I’m being too cynical. Maybe he really does want to improve our communication; maybe he really does want to fix “our” problem. Maybe I really should just “get over” my trust issues and let him back into my heart and mind.

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  • On Hold For Military Investigation

    Right now, we’re in the middle of a military investigation about domestic violence. It couldn’t have come at a worse time, but is the result of the report I made back in December 2008. Why did it take so long for the report to make it to the Army? I may have an answer for…

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  • No Food

    “I didn’t eat all day.” He said. “Why not?” I asked him. “Because no one told me there was any food ready.”

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  • Mountains From Molehills

    When my husband tells me I am making mountains out of molehills, it means HE is the one doing it. HE is the one insisting on picking things apart. UGH!

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  • I Respect Him Less

    It made me wonder why Marc would react so respectfully when his dad used harsh language, but so “teenager-ish” and disrespectfully when I did it the other night. Specifically, when I “commanded” his respect during our argument. It bugged me. A lot.

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  • What Is Real?

    What Is Real?

    How do people know when they’re being authentic? How do people overcome fear? How can I be sure the verbal abuse is real? Why is it so hard to believe?

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  • Knot Spinning

    Confusion and depression are hallmarks of abusive relationships. For the victim anyway – the abuser knows what they are trying to do. They want to weaken.

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