Recovery from Domestic Abuse

I’m Not A Victim, Don’t Feel Like A Survivor

Victim or survivor? There has to be a different word for what I have experienced and what is to come. I don’t feel like repeating the word “victim” to myself or portraying myself as such.…
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Having Doubts About Getting a Divorce: It’s too Soon to Decide

But then there’s the big question: Am I on the path to divorce? Is there NO alternative? Am I going to get divorced in the same hasty manner I married? Did I throw out the…
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My Transition Title from Victim to Survivor

I don’t know what I’m doing, I don’t know what I’m feeling. And when I think about what I’m thinking I feel afraid. There’s no good title for that kind of confusion. There’s no good…
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I Don’t Feel Like Going Along Anymore

Yesterday I visited the Women’s Center that acts as this area’s Small Business Association. The Center offers two programs that fit me. One caters to displaced homemakers and the other help people wanting to start their own…
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Codependency and My Darkness with an Apology at the End

I sent an email to his family revealing this blog. Accidentally. This post is now part of the book “My Abusive Marriage…and what happened when i left it.”
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He’s an Asshole, But Not Abusive? Is It Possible?

My husband admits to being an asshole, but doesn’t see how he’s abusive? Can you be one or the other or are you both?
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A Necessary Evil: Pain of Separating from Abuser

I saw Will today. He looks good. Softer. I caught him glance at me sidelong and I wondered what he was thinking. Will gave Marc a bag to put in the trunk of my car. It…
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Domestic Violence Hits Home: I Left Twice

Leaving my abusive marriage happened by surprise, but not unexpectedly. I knew I would leave, but I didn’t have it planned for when it happened.
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Potty Talk with God

I had a little conversation with God when I was on the commode today. God didn’t mind and was glad to hear from me. I asked God to take my worries and promised to be…
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Am I Happy He Is Gone? Things I Was Not Anxious About Today

But I noticed something weird. There is a lot of time to fill when there is no anxiety. Or at least, no anxiety dependent on another person’s actions. Here’s a list of some of the…
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