Recovery from Domestic Abuse
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There is No Good God – Primary Custody to Abusive Husband
I hope God’s absence in my heart means that he’s present with Eddie and Marc. I hope God curled up in bed beside Eddie tonight to whisper my I love yous.
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Not Over Yet
Book Excerpt He left with the boys, but I felt like he was still outside. Still wanting me to do something I didn’t want to do. I knew he wasn’t there, but I felt him all around me; if he had intended to invoke fear in me, he succeeded. Eventually I watched the end of…
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He’s Still the Same Abusive Creep: Our 18th Anniversary
Looking for the safety plan? Here’s the link: Safety Planning for Domestic Violence and Abuse Victims. Scroll to the bottom of that page to download it for free. I don’t know why pages are redirecting here, but I’m trying to figure it out. Yesterday was our 18th anniversary. I felt concerned about how I would…
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Residue from My Abusive Relationship Clogs My Brain
The residue from my abusive relationship clogs my brain neurons like smoke and nicotine residue clogs electronics. Enough smoke and the greasy nicotine will kill a computer, a server…enough abusive residue can kill my brain function. I’ve got to clean the residue from my brain so I can start fresh. My most limiting belief is…
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Why Did I Stay in An Abusive Relationship?
Why did I stay in an abusive relationship for so long? For many reasons that seemed quite rational until after I left the abusive marriage. Here they are.
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Resisting Temptation & Codependency
I just stopped myself from doing something manipulative after seeing a youtube interview with Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Man, Can He Change?: A Woman’s Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go. For almost a year and a half now, I’ve tried to prove to my husband that he is, in fact,…
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How Did I Get Here?
How did I become a victim? Yesterday my friend and I hit upon one answer. Or rather, one question that is actually RELEVANT to “How did I get here?”
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What Was I Doing in the Missing Years?
And, honestly and more ominously, I want to prove him wrong. That is pointless, I know. He would diminish or counter everything I found relating to my timeline if I showed it as proof. “You could write anything and no one would know whether it was the truth or a lie – you live in…
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Threats After a Court Date: “I Will Hurt You, Crawfisher”
I listened to a bit of his drivel, but when he said, “This isn’t a threat, but -” I cut him off. You can pretty much bet that when someone tells you “This isn’t a threat” that it is going to be a threat.
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Justice vs. Right
I signed a form today that says I would like for the state to dismiss the charge against Will of assault on a woman. I walked into the attorney’s office and told the receptionist that I was there to sign some kind of dismissal form for the domestic violence charge on my husband. A woman…