Mind Games: Use Them To Detach From Domestic Abuse

Mind Games: Use Them To Detach From Domestic Abuse - Can you detach from domestic abuse? It's not good to be thrown off balance mentally or emotionally every day. Detaching can help. Read this.When I wondered how to detach from domestic abuse, basic training for the Army came to mind. I handled the mind games of the drill sergeants by detaching myself from them. I was ready for this because, going in, I knew that basic training was a mind game. I knew they were treating us a certain way for a reason – to break our spirit so we were easier to control and to embed the Army Way into our psyche.

The drill sergeants broke us down so we would all be the same soldier – predictable, reliable, controllable, etc.

In fact, I wanted to be The Same Soldier. I knew that to become the best that I could be (for the Army), I would have to break down and go along. But I didn’t want to lose my Self.

So, I separated my Self from the soldier. I had to remove my heart and soul from the basic training situation, and allow them to brainwash me, with my consent, but only brainwash a portion of my thinking – the thinking that became the soldier.

To protect myself from emotional injury, I learned to remove myself from the reality surrounding me. Yes, we were rolling around in wet sawdust at 4:30 am with temperatures in the low 40’s. But from my place outside of myself, I was able to laugh at the situation. It was ridiculous. We looked like idiots for doing what those sergeants told us to do, and those yelling men looked like idiots making us do it.

The situation is similar with my husband. When I remove my spirit from the words/ideas he’s trying to embed into me, he can’t touch me. He can’t make me believe. He can’t upset me.

He’s already brainwashed a portion of my mind. A big portion. I’m taking my brain back. I will make it impossible for him to fool me again. I will use the ability to observe from outside of myself to detach from domestic abuse, too.

I’m floating around the room, watching him act like an idiot. I don’t give away that I’m not in my body – that I’m detached from the abuse. And the best part? He doesn’t even know I’m not there.

See similar:

(Visited 203 times, 1 visits today)
About Kellie Jo Holly

Kellie Jo Holly passionately advocates against domestic violence through her writing and mentoring service. She loves helping women cope with abuse while in the relationship and supporting them as they leave the relationship and begin to heal. You can also find Kellie on Google+, Facebook and Twitter. You can buy her books from Amazon.


  1. I used to do that a lot, I would just go on auto pilot for a few hours or days, in order to stop feeling or needing things. I would become numb.

What do you think? Tell us!