The Year I Left My Abuser
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Wasted Time Wasted Life
I postpone things important to me so I will be emotionally strong enough to tend to my abuser’s needs, moods, and other surprises he has in store for me.
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Liar Liar – I Can’t Pretend I’m Not Angry
I only wanted you to be nice to me. Treat me and our children with respect and civility. You can be who you are and still learn to be nice. You could have even looked…
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Rules for Our Abusive Relationships
RandomlyK (as she is known around here) posted a list of rules she must live by if she wants to keep the peace in her home. All of us have idiotic rules to follow when…
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Codependency Makes Me Want to Fix Things for Them
My therapist presented an alternative solution, one that actually makes sense and would have cut out all the drama. She said that Marc’s feelings of guilt were HIS to deal with. It sounded harsh to…
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I’m Not A Victim, Don’t Feel Like A Survivor
Victim or survivor? There has to be a different word for what I have experienced and what is to come. I don’t feel like repeating the word “victim” to myself or portraying myself as such.…
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Having Doubts About Getting a Divorce: It’s too Soon to Decide
But then there’s the big question: Am I on the path to divorce? Is there NO alternative? Am I going to get divorced in the same hasty manner I married? Did I throw out the…
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My Transition Title from Victim to Survivor
I don’t know what I’m doing, I don’t know what I’m feeling. And when I think about what I’m thinking I feel afraid. There’s no good title for that kind of confusion. There’s no good…
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I Don’t Feel Like Going Along Anymore
Yesterday I visited the Women’s Center that acts as this area’s Small Business Association. The Center offers two programs that fit me. One caters to displaced homemakers and the other help people wanting to start their own…
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Codependency and My Darkness with an Apology at the End
I sent an email to his family revealing this blog. Accidentally. This post is now part of the book “My Abusive Marriage…and what happened when i left it.”
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He’s an Asshole, But Not Abusive? Is It Possible?
My husband admits to being an asshole, but doesn’t see how he’s abusive? Can you be one or the other or are you both?