Abuse Hides in the Dark. Turn on Your Light.

Verbal and Emotional Abuse Help and Support


  • Public Sector Counseling at DSS

    Public Sector Counseling at DSS

    She has been wonderful! I’ve been to her three times, and each time she was able to point out a valuable issue for me to examine. Issues that are MINE, not his. She’s teaching me…

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  • Set Personal Boundaries

    Set Personal Boundaries

    I Didn’t Understand Personal Boundaries No one ever pointed out to me that we each have personal boundaries. I knew when I didn’t like someone standing too close to me, but the idea that individuals…

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  • Forced Counseling for the Abuser

    Forced Counseling for the Abuser

    I’m not saying you and I have no faults, but when it comes to abuse, we victims have NO RESPONSIBILITY for the abuse or the abuser’s actions and words. In my opinion, if my husband…

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  • Six Sessions of Individual Counseling

    Six Sessions of Individual Counseling

    I received six sessions of individual counseling through Military One Source. It was only six sessions because my insurance offered them with no referral. When I go back to private counseling, I’ll need a referral.…

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  • How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    How to Survive Abuse – Maybe

    I’ll tell you what I’ve tried and what the results were to give you an idea of what directions you could go. You are the only one who can decide what your course of action…

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  • How to Help a Domestic Abuse Victim

    How to Help a Domestic Abuse Victim

    Is It Even Possible? Is it possible to help a domestic abuse victim? How could you, a bystander to your loved one’s abusive relationship, help? Is there a way to help her without inviting the abuser…

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  • Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    Boundaries for Abusive Relationship Examples

    “I Cannot Control You” is the missing key for people setting boundaries in abusive relationships. I cannot control you, but I can control me. So if you are acting like a jerk, I get to…

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  • Boundaries Are Crucial for Abuse Victims

    Boundaries Are Crucial for Abuse Victims

    Once you set your personal boundaries, you do not have to tell a person who crosses your line why you’re doing what you’re doing unless you want to do so. With no warning at all,…

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  • How to Set Boundaries to Protect Against Abuse

    How to Set Boundaries to Protect Against Abuse

    When you learn how to set boundaries, you’ll feel empowered and ready to try them out. Be aware your abuser may not like the new you. Be careful. Abusers do not like having limited access…

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  • First Steps For Abuse Victims

    First Steps For Abuse Victims

    The shock of discovering you are in an abusive relationship can turn to panic over what to do. The following guide will help you clear your thinking after weeks or years of abuse. These are…

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