Periodically my husband insists on taking over the money and bill paying. This never lasts long. He says my records-keeping is confusing (so I can hide all that money he thinks we have).
Re-reading these posts to place them online because they remind me of something very important that my abuser does to me: He wants me to think that reducing my control is what I want. In this post, I am happy that I can “get the money I need from … Will.” That means I am happy that I have no oversight on our financial position. What a twisted web.
The conversation of who pays the bills and budgets the finances went relatively smoothly considering that we tend to fight about money.
I reread a letter from my mom where she equates money with power in a relationship. Regardless of that thought, I am glad to be done with the money.
Now I can get the money I need from what Will tells me we have, while at the same time knowing if he’s telling the truth because I also have access to accounts (just as he had when I paid the bills).
Know what? I’ve got people reading what I’m typing, so I’ll finish later.