Staying in Abusive Relationships
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Fragments
I cannot afford to assume that the goodness will continue. When I go to cook dinner, I can take a minute to relish in the previous moment, think that something good may have happened, BUT…
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You’re a Housewife. Be Grateful Dammit. And Smile.
To my husband, I am a housewife. He said so. He rejected any other role because none of them bring home any money. And after rejecting me wholly (since housewife is only a fraction of…
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Cryptogram
Okay, let’s do something a little different. I’m not going to tell you what this conversation was about. Instead, I’m going to share what I wrote down, what I heard him say verbatim, and let…
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Loveseat
There have been no more fights between Will and I. We aren’t fighting. We have had a couple of discussions that were intense, yet they did not turn into fights. That is a good thing,…
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XXOO
I went to the group meeting yesterday and met several women. Some still in their abusive relationships and some have left; some were in my age range and some were very young women. Some were…
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Pressure Cooker
Yesterday afternoon, when talking to the Army social worker, I broke down, completely. I was beside myself, literally, at hearing some news she delivered. When she asked me if I felt in danger, I told…
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Distraction & Manipulation
My husband accused our son of drinking Jack Daniels, but wanted to do nothing about it. I sense an ulterior motive to distract me from his abuse of me.
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Mispoken
The first conversation about “us” we had involved him telling me that he had three priorities. He is a list maker. I expressed concern that by keeping items one and two separate in his mind, he may feel…
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Nothing Wrong With Me
Last night, Will blew up about my callousness in choosing my and the boys’ mental health and welfare over his career. He got ugly, but I stood up and said, “That’s it. I’m done with…
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Red Flags
So, last December, there was a domestic violence incident at my home. The Army got wind of it in February (early March?) after Will had deployed. So now that he’s back, he’s required to do…